According to a study, feminists are not man-haters

[firehearts132]

I have some good news for feminists out there. A study has revealed that anti-feminists are actually more hostile to men than feminists are, proving the 'feminists are man haters' stereotype wrong. http://www.thefword.org.uk/blog/2009/07/non-feminist_mo To me, it's not too surprising, seeing as how negative stereotypes about men such as men being

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[philstar22]

The way I look at it as a feminist is that it is about choices. There is a difference between criticizing the society that tells people they have to adhere to certain roles and criticizing individuals who choose those roles for themselves. We should absolutely criticize sexism in culture, but we should be wary of criticizing individuals (assuming they are just living their own life and aren't infringing on anyone else).

[firehearts132]

I can see what you mean. There's a difference between criticizing the sexism of the 1950s, where it was more common for housewives to be forced into those roles and criticizing a modern housewife who wasn't forced into that role by her husband or society, but chose that role because that is what she prefers.

[ladyhadhafang]

*Does happy dance* :D

[imhilien]

The way I see it, feminism means that both women and men are allowed to choose the career / lifestyle choice they want, without being told, 'no you can't, because of your gender'.

[firehearts132]

Exactly! :D

[manicwriter1271]

Love seeing you all on the same page.

If a feminist looks down on another woman for choosing a traditional woman's role, or believes it is her duty to hate men, then she is doing no more favors for women than the misogynists who think women belong barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen.

I actually had a so-called feminist tell me once that feminism is about equality, not choices, and that electing to stay at home with one's children is not contributing to society and is hurting other women.

I told her to bite me. ;) I stayed home with my kids for six years, and for my family at the time, that was the best possible choice for us. Now I'm back at work, which for my family now, is the best possible choice.

[firehearts132]

To me, women have always been individuals, plain and simple. So, that means that some will be masculine, some will be feminime, and some will be a mixture of both. Personally, I think I'm a mixture of both. I think the problem with some feminists is that if they are more masculine, they sometimes try imposing that onto women who prefer to be traditionally feminime---just like the misogynists who try imposing the feminime role onto women who are naturally more masculine.