another incident...

[firmtofu]

Ugh...it happened again. I find that it USUALLY happens with the older folk. When I'm on campus, around the younger crowd, I don't get mistakened as a boy as much...but when I'm in a more open, public place like a restaurant or a theater...it happens ALL THE TIME! So I went to watch Cabaret in the theatre last night...and I dashed into the restroom

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[notpiecebypiece]

if it makes you feel any better, once this old lady at Boston Market came into the bathroom and said "Is this the men's room?" and I said no, and she said, "Oh, I thought you were a man" and just left it at that. Not only was it rude, I'm not even butch. I just had short hair.

ugh. they're old-fashioned and idiotic.

[firmtofu]

wow...yeah, i hate it when people say "Oh, I thought you were a man" because it's like they're blaming YOU for THEIR close-mindedness and rudeness...and trying to justify THEIR way of thinking by implying that "short hair = man."

WTF

[honey_doomelon]

Even weirder, I was walking my dog down at the lake a few winters ago, dressed for the weather. A guy came along with his dog, and after we said our how do you dos, he told me that he had thought I was a man, and then walked away saying to his dog "we thought it was a man, didn't we 'insert_dog's_name_here'" and generally talking to his dog about my non-conforming gender presentation.

Noting that I was pretty close to the mental hospital, I hurried on my way.

[alexander_d]

Awesome icon man!!! Sorry about the bathroom thing...some folks just see short hair = boy long hair = girl it's sad :(
Take care

[liverpool273]

dude! totally disappeared on me.. where where u when i needed to talk!! how long u been back? let me know whats up.. sorry about the bathroom thing.. i just dont care so ill go in either one..

[firmtofu]

Hey little buddy! Sorry I disappeared. Long story. Anyway....I just looked you up on myspace so I'll add you. I have two different profiles on there...my film one and my "gay" one. lol. I'll add you on both. :) You said you needed to talk...??? Email me on myspace and tell me what's up.

i_am_nose

[anonymous]

I think that it is sad on societies behalf that we can't all read eachother better and that life is limited to the labels we verbally place on eachother with out being able to get to know eachother intimately on a spiritual and non judgemental way. If she would have been able to open her eyes to your movment and your gentalness she would have seen what a warm hearted and caring individual you are and that might have made her more caring with you. But we are not trained to see people for "who" they are just "what" they are.

We met.

You and I.

Once.

And I missed you before I got on the plane.

I knew I would run into you at that airport. :D

You are a warm caring person, don't let the "man" get you down. ;)

Re: i_am_nose

[firmtofu]

Hey! Your comment made me smile. I've often told the story of my dinner with "the two Canadians" and was slightly upset that I didn't get your email addresses to keep in contact. I'm glad you found me. :)

[hellbaby71]

(I'm the one who posted in genderotica that you look like my ex boyfriend).
That used to happen to me all the time (damn old ladies) and it finally got to a point where I would freak out and drive home just to pee. I thought things were fine once I switched to the men's bathroom, but then some guy got mad too---"you need to use the women's" or something... Now, keep in mind this was after I'd had chest surgery and really looking more like a guy. Well what the fuck? I kept using the men's bathroom and it progressively got better. Basically, I just wait for someone else to make noise, like flush a toilet or whatever before I pee that way no one knows I have to sit down to pee. Or, go to a gas station where it is a single stall only. Isn't it super lame though, that we even have to concern ourselves with this mess anyway? I mean bah it's just pee! yar!