The Good, The Bad, The Catholic, The Occult

[fishwithfeet]

I really need to get everything that's happened written down, for my own sanity, and also to clarify my thoughts on the matter. This post is likely to get incredibly long, there is also a high probability of swearing, praise, incredulous disbelief and love. The past week has been an emotional roller coaster for a lot of people. I'm putting it

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[azaz_al]

Sounds like a bad case of scapegoating. Unfortunately I'm all too familiar with that. Does his mom have anyone to look after her? (*hopes she didn't miss that*)

[fishwithfeet]

Eric's Mom is an incredibly independent woman, otherwise. She's holding down two jobs as a nurse, has gotten her PhD in Nursing, directs school plays, and until now, was taking care of a sick husband. Her comments have been, "I don't know what I'm going to do with myself"

[azaz_al]

Yeah but everyone needs emotional support, especially at a time like this. I just worry hearing this because it's clear she will get none from them. Meh.

[fishwithfeet]

Oh, yeah, in terms of that she has a lot of people who showed up to offer support, and Eric and I are staying longer than we planned to help her out and just be there. Unfortunately she's unlikely to take them up on offers of help. But with us being here, we can get things done that might otherwise be too much emotionally for her to do. Like packing up Jim's stuff.

[saltnester]

That Elyse lady sounds nice, at least. If the nasty relatives try moving in on the legacy, I think it'd be worth collecting the evidence against them - at least a few of those things mentioned would merit an ASBO if not minor jail time.

[of ghost-talking] Catholics do tend to hang about, 's why I avoid taking their bones if at all possible (all my Catholic bones are from threatened or destroyed sites - 'Jules' has most presence, but I don't feel objection/anything in particular from any of the others). I think 'psychicness' is a bit like synasesthesia - something most people lose in the womb or before they can speak, something a few have strongly all their lives, and something a lot of people don't realise they have mildly/traces of because they don't compare experiences/talk about it.

Lots of people dream little fractions of the future, for instance - a second or so at a time - and I know several others, mostly women, for some reason, who have an effect on electrical things.

[fishwithfeet]

I think after this, our relatives won't bother talking to us anymore. Elyse is awesome, I love having her as my sister.

That's interesting about the ghosts, it's certainly comforting to know that Jim is out there, watching over us and joking around. He apparently said that "now he can walk and run and even run faster than Judy." Judy is a runner, something that the psychic also didn't know.

I don't know that jail time would be worth it at this point. Most of it has happened over the course of 28 years and there's no proof left, only one persons word versus another. Judy just wants them out of her life.

[saltnester]

You can but hope. [of jail/time] Aye, but it sounds like they might try and cut finances out from under her, this is a vulnerable time whilst she's grieving and paying things off, and you've at least one nun (and a waitress) to boost your word against theirs if it comes down to character. If one's meek at that kind of viper, they'll just think it all right to chew on one until one's all over poison. Eric did right to tell them they were being wicked, I would've shaken his hand an' all.

I wonder what she'd make of 'Jules'...good for him! 'tis good for a soul to enjoy itself, in flesh or out of it.

[fishwithfeet]

So far as finances are concerned, she's been independent and free of their money for her whole life. She's refused to take money from them. I think she's comfortably well off, and is at the end of her rope, enough so to refuse to let them bully her anymore.

We think he's playing around with the Wii right now. It's plugged in properly and not working at all.

[shanra]

O_O

I don't even have first-hand experience with these people and I already think you're a dozen times better off without that part of Eric's family in your lives.

That's just... I'd use the word 'incredible', but it's actually way too positive for the situation. I'm glad to hear meeting the psychic friend helped Judy so much, and send you all - that is, Judy and you three - much strength and good thoughts. *hugs*

[fishwithfeet]

Warm thoughts and well wishes are always welcome. Thank you.

[shanra]

*huggles and sends e-hugs to Judy* She sounds like an amazingly strong woman. Do pass on the sentiment to both her and Elyse (and Eric) if you think they'll appreciate them/get something good out of them.

And I certainly hope that this'll be the last Judy and Elyse have to deal with them.

[psychodrake]

I can relate; I had a very similar experience. Fortunately with my Grandmother's funeral it was all coming from her oldest son and his new wife, his kids and the rest of the family were on the sane side, so it didn't get nearly this bad and they mostly alienated themselves. We were out of contact for quite a while (my dad's other brother and sister didn't want to speak to their eldest brother again, but my dad was always trying to re-establish contact with him, sending cards and emails and calling him once a year or so). But recently he's started talking again, and from what I've been able to tell (I haven't spoken to him in ten years) he seems to miss the rest of his family. So, as with so many other things, I'd say that time is the best medicine.

It really does make you wonder, though, why these sorts of people go to funerals if they're not grieving.

That story about Elyse's classmates is really touching, and I don't usually find things 'touching'. It was great of them to do that. I can't imagine any of my classmates doing that

[fishwithfeet]

Agreed. I'm just glad that it seems we at least, can move on.

[cosmic_reverie]

Wow. *hug*

I second the comment above that you're probably better off without that side of the family. Who needs that kind of drama and misery in life? If they're determined to be unhappy and blame Judy and whoever else, there's not much that will changed their minds. It is such a shame that family problems are so explosive and devastating, especially around an already difficult time. I'm so sorry for you and especially for Eric for having to go through all this.

Also, did you realize you posted this publicly?

[fishwithfeet]

I do realize I changed it to a public entry. I might switch it later on, but for now I'm of the opinion that it needs to be said and found, even if by accident.