How to flirt

[fling93]

For the longest time, I just had no clue about flirting. Of course, whenever faced with a problem I really want to solve, I tend to throw a lot of effort and research into it. And it's been paying off in spades

Comments

[rhiannonstone]

Interesting general guide, but still completely unhelpful for those of us whose main problem is that we have no concept of who might or might not find us attractive. :)

[fling93]

Well, what I generally do is 1) stay alert and notice when somebody is flirting with me and 2) flirt with those I'm attracted to and see how they receive it. It's not a mind-reader, but more like sonar. But that can still be a powerful tool.

The great thing about flirting when done right is that it's ambiguous. You are signaling possible interest, but there is an alternate explanation. That makes it a little easier to handle rejection, cuz you can still pretend that you weren't really interested. And even when you don't pull off the ambiguity, you still have the "Well, I was just flirting" excuse.

That makes it a lot easier to do than to, say, ask somebody out, where it's just really tough to handle rejection gracefully.