It's a lifelong journey

[flowerfalls]

...but I want it all figured out NOW.

Anyway. Things I am struggling with, in no particular order:

1. What do you do when someone you love makes a decision you completely disagree with?

2. How do I look clearly at choices I have made, which are having consequences now, without deep shame?

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[dancer1983]

I think this is what I tell myself:

1) If someone I love is making decisions I disagree with I normally try to gently help them realize why they may not be the best decisions. Or I try to tell them in as tactful a way as possible. Depending on the situation, I may try to support them regardless. Or simply try to be there for him or her when she struggles with the situation or is in need of a friend.

2) It is necessary to realize that when you made those choices you probably didn't know everything you do now about how they would turn out, so you should not feel shame about them. Also, it helps to acknowledge that even if they were not the best decisions, you may have learned something from it. At the very least you may have a greater understanding of what others may face in similar circumstances.