I'm sure it'll happen eventually, though, and besides...I see nothing wrong with getting offended and correcting people when they give the wrong answer. If anything, it affirms your gender, whereas saying nothing confirms their poor assumptions.
i'm so glad you're strong enough to not let things like that keep you down. I don't know why gender needs to play such a strong role in society unless for medical purposes. everything you fill out always wants to know. i can get past the kid being confused because...it's not that common and kids are kids, but the parents should be more open. but this is not an ideal world.
It does get me down a little, but never for long. If anything, it just bolsters my resolve to make people realize that being neither male nor female can be a perfectly normal, healthy thing.
I'm not physically intersexed, I'm biofemale, but genderqueer, and have spent portions of my life passing as male and portions as androgyne. To me, the complete honesty and innocence of kids' reactions to me was always heartening, and then their parents' freaking out really sad. "Are you a girl or a boy?" and then the mom saying "SHHHHH!" and dragging them away. :/ I'm always happy to answer a frank, innocent question about what I am. It's the snarky judgemental stuff from adults that gets annoying at times.
I've actually had adults (a rare few) ask me that question, to which I always answer: "Does it matter?"
The world view of children is always refreshing, though. Life would be a lot less complicated if adults stopped filling their heads with gobs of two-dimensional crap.
Comments 7
Yeah, I may not be exactly in your exact circumstances of intersex, but...
Reply
She said no. My heart sank.
1Mommy, is that a girl?
Reply
I'm sure it'll happen eventually, though, and besides...I see nothing wrong with getting offended and correcting people when they give the wrong answer. If anything, it affirms your gender, whereas saying nothing confirms their poor assumptions.
Reply
i can get past the kid being confused because...it's not that common and kids are kids, but the parents should be more open. but this is not an ideal world.
Reply
Reply
Reply
The world view of children is always refreshing, though. Life would be a lot less complicated if adults stopped filling their heads with gobs of two-dimensional crap.
Reply
Leave a comment