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fnihost

I can't figure out what Office character I am...

Sep 29, 2006 09:47

So I started dating someone. Her name is Emily. She is smart, funny, fun, tall, sexy, snarky, hard on the heart and easy on the eyes. Also she is JEWISH (...I know....right?)!!! So in all of her perfect-for-Benness, she is also a walking red flag. Why? Well it seems that some other guy noticed all of the cool things that I noticed about her, and ( Read more... )

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spanishdoll23 September 29 2006, 14:44:45 UTC

Oh Ben, I don't blame you for not running away. It's one of those things you just can't do. Well, I can't. And at least a billion or so other people can't. what I always tell myself is, I know what a broken heart feels like. I have survived having my soul crushed and the abject misery that comes with it. But when all is said and done, I have not wound up in a situation that I had to "What if..." to death for the rest of my life. I have my woes and sorrows and the occasional "If only.." but I know where it all stands. And it hurts, like eff, but as horrible as it is or can be, I am pretty sure I owuld choose it any day over the years and years of insanity brought on by my questioning myself running away from opportunities. Maybe I am just younger and not jaded enough yet, but I have loved and lost, my friend, and lost hard, but though I am more careful about it now, I'll take love any day. It's worth it to me, more than pretty much anything else. So, though logic may make you realize what a bad decision you're making based on ( ... )

spandykochalka September 29 2006, 15:30:29 UTC

When I met Chris, neither of us was ready for the other person at all. We had both just broken up with someone we shouldn't have been with in the first place. And Chris was leaving for New York in a year. We didn't want to love each other and we didn't want a relationship: we just wanted to "hang out ( ... )

paisleycat September 29 2006, 17:02:06 UTC

eh. "hanging out" is good. Ridiculous monkey sex is good. Just don't let it get so important that you miss out on other good things(like movies and friends and food and being alone just for fun), especially since this is a risk.

robinelaine September 29 2006, 18:34:12 UTC

I think you are clearly Darryl the Warehouse Guy.

As for the actual subject of this entry, I don't have anything intelligent to say except YAY! for DatingBen and I hope you crazy kids work it out. Also, never forget that if you do get hit by the heartbreak train, you have a lot of friends who will canvass the area, pick up all the gooey Ben chunks, and glue them back together with surgical precision.

fnihost September 29 2006, 19:13:40 UTC

See now I thought I was more like Toby in that I got out of a long relationship and like a girl who recently broke off an engagement, but clearly has issues, but if you think I'm more like Darryl, well then dinkin' flicka to you.

robinelaine September 29 2006, 19:49:31 UTC

Toby is everything that is wrong with the paper industry. And instead of having ridiculous monkey sex with the recently-unengaged girl, he stammers at her desk. Obviously you are not like Toby.

ectohitch September 29 2006, 22:00:05 UTC

More importantly, Toby is the HR guy who wouldn't hesitate to tell Dwight and Angela that their relationship is InAProPriAte but wastes no time crossing the lines he draws.

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whatifilied September 29 2006, 19:17:15 UTC

Here's the thing. You're already in, waist deep. If you had left the first date and decided to walk away with your heart completely in tact, we probably would have called you smart and life would go on. But you didn't. You made the risky choice and now your potential for pain has increased a million fold. But so has your chance to be happy. Maybe I'm wrong, but I think it's too late to do the "smart" thing. Walking away now won't save you from being hurt, it will just fill you with regret. But it's not too late to enjoy what you have, which from the sounds of it, is one awesome chick. Being realistic about the problems you might have to work through is awesome. Being totally negative and fatalistic isn't. Don't set up a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I think you did the right thing, even if it wasn't the "smart" thing. And if it doesn't work out, I volunteer for duty on the Gooey-Ben-Chunks Pick-up Team.

etzelism September 30 2006, 04:55:54 UTC

Ditto.

You'd give any of your friends a very severe eyeroll if we started talking like this.

Quit being such a damn pessimist. I know you're probably not conveying your severe negative thinking to Emily right now, but you keep this up, she's going to start to pick up on it. And, from what I hear, it's a big turn off for the smart, funny, fun, tall, sexy, snarky, hard on the heart and easy on the eyes women.

You're in it, Bumblebear; you've bought the tickets to this show. Sorry, sir, there are no refunds or exchanges, so you might as well enjoy this until the final curtain falls (if it even does).