The Elephant in the Room

[foolishfiddler]

I danced with my tall, handsome baby brother at his wedding.  His new wife comes from money, so we were at a Utah ski lodge in the height of summer.  The ceremony took place on a mountain in a field of wild flowers.  The band was excellent.  Before the wedding, I had told my new sister-in-law there were two things I would not do:  the Chicken Dance

Comments

[yummydeb]

I don't know what LJ idol is but I wanted to say I'm enjoying these posts.

Almost all of my friends married and had kids centuries before I got married at the ripe old age (to them) of 41. All the while I used to say, "But I would rather be mostly-happily single, than unhappily coupled," and they would smile patronizingly and pityingly and almost pat my head and say "there there, dear, you'll find someone." Almost for that reason I stayed semi-single and somewhat strangely and unhappily long-distance coupled for seven years, just because "I have a boyfriend but he lives in Virginia" was apparently more acceptable to people than just "I'm in my late 30s and single."

People are weird. I was talking to a guy once, I was 35, and I said, "I've reached the point where I don't even want kids anymore," and I meant it wholeheartedly. This guy who didn't know me whatsoever said, "That's just sour grapes, hon, you're just saying it in case you never find someone."

WTF?

[foolishfiddler]

LJ Idol is a writing competition, where you get a new theme each week or so, and people vote on your work. You can find it at therealljidol. While it can turn into a popularity contest, I enjoy stretching my brain with the topics. And I STILL have people say, with pitying looks "Oh, don't worry, you'll find someone!" I'm not worried. I'm finding myself.

[basric]

Good for you. You don't need a man to make you happy or feel fulfilled.

Excellent posting. You elephants are under control.

[foolishfiddler]

LOL! Thanks!

[myrna_bird]

Good for you. I really liked your entry. Well organized leading to your conclusions.

[foolishfiddler]

Thanks for reading, I appreciate it!

[kehlen]

LOL. I'm 29 and single and I get that too.

My mom is even weirder though. She regularly asks me for a grandchild, like this, to 'bring them in the hem' (Russian euphemism for bearing a child out of wedlock). Do not see that happening anywhere soon either.

[foolishfiddler]

That is too funny!

[wyrdfishes]

Ugh, the marriage elephant--my worst nemesis aside from the kids elephant. I could really relate to this. Nicely done.

[foolishfiddler]

No more kids elephant for me - no uterus! :-)