Sure...you're not the jealous type...but have you ever been faced with the prospect of LIVING with an ex? AND her new guy too? Its one thing to be friends with an ex and have them wind up with someone else. Its quite another to have them constantly in your face with it. Believe me, I know.
It sounds like getting out of there is a good idea. And I know it may be quite a long shot of an idea...but it sounds like you are in a pretty decent bind...have you considered talking to your parents? If nothing else, maybe they can help you get a car so you can move out and put yourself in a situation thats more mentally healthy for yourself.
And I am facing the prospect of living with them. If I can't get out of here, then I will have to live with them both. I won't be able to handle that. And I can't move in with my parents, because they moved out to the boonies in southern Virginia. The only thing worse then living with my parents again, would be being away from everybody that I know.
unbearable. I love my parents, but I moved out for a reason.
Oh, I'm not saying move back in with your parents. I know how that is and I wouldn't wanna do that at all myself. :)
But...they might be able to buy you a car that you will have to pay them back on so that you can get out of dodge while the gettin's good rather than having to wait for months on end to be able to afford the car yourself...ya know?
Ouch dude that is a really tough situation. Maybe you can get a junker to get you outa there. Shouldnt be too hard. Just grab a friend that knows something about cars to come with you and take a look at it to make sure your not getting ripped off.
Let me know if there is anything I can do to help you out. You know Im always here if you need me.
thank you, I really appreciate it. I'm definately going to be exhausting some resources in the next few months to try and get myself situated.
At this point, things have calmed down and I've gotten a lot of emotion out of my system by talking to Becky. The situation hasn't changed, but my thoughts and mindset has. What I need to do at this point is consider what is more important to me and do it. I need the car, but should I try to get an apartment here and tough it out (900+ a month for a one bedroom around here) or should I move and start anew.
Well...thats tricky. I think if you moved out of the place you are in at least, then alot of the possible tensions will be limited so you don't necessarily need to start completely anew.
Either way, do some homework on it. Weigh out costs to see what you can afford and all that. It might prove to be cheaper to get a cheap car and move to a cheaper place than staying in the ones that are $900 a month without it. Then again, might be the complete opposite. Just gotta see what's best for your financial situation since either way its going to be better for your mental/emotional situation not to be in the current place, I think.
Yes. So after talking with Becky, he is planning on moving out here sometime mid-May, so I am going to need a car/apartment around then. It doesn't give me much time to get my shit together, but we will see. Worst comes to worse, I will tough it out for a year until the lease is up and then I will move to wherever I can.
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Sure...you're not the jealous type...but have you ever been faced with the prospect of LIVING with an ex? AND her new guy too? Its one thing to be friends with an ex and have them wind up with someone else. Its quite another to have them constantly in your face with it. Believe me, I know.
It sounds like getting out of there is a good idea. And I know it may be quite a long shot of an idea...but it sounds like you are in a pretty decent bind...have you considered talking to your parents? If nothing else, maybe they can help you get a car so you can move out and put yourself in a situation thats more mentally healthy for yourself.
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And I am facing the prospect of living with them. If I can't get out of here, then I will have to live with them both. I won't be able to handle that. And I can't move in with my parents, because they moved out to the boonies in southern Virginia. The only thing worse then living with my parents again, would be being away from everybody that I know.
unbearable. I love my parents, but I moved out for a reason.
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But...they might be able to buy you a car that you will have to pay them back on so that you can get out of dodge while the gettin's good rather than having to wait for months on end to be able to afford the car yourself...ya know?
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Let me know if there is anything I can do to help you out. You know Im always here if you need me.
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At this point, things have calmed down and I've gotten a lot of emotion out of my system by talking to Becky. The situation hasn't changed, but my thoughts and mindset has. What I need to do at this point is consider what is more important to me and do it. I need the car, but should I try to get an apartment here and tough it out (900+ a month for a one bedroom around here) or should I move and start anew.
Opinions? Thanks for the help guys.
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Either way, do some homework on it. Weigh out costs to see what you can afford and all that. It might prove to be cheaper to get a cheap car and move to a cheaper place than staying in the ones that are $900 a month without it. Then again, might be the complete opposite. Just gotta see what's best for your financial situation since either way its going to be better for your mental/emotional situation not to be in the current place, I think.
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if you need to talk you (should) know where to find me...
i know we havent talked in eons...but im still here
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