Comments | forlorn_lvbd: *Poll*

forlorn_lvbd

Poll

Apr 22, 2005 22:03

Do not answer this unless you have had a relationship or are in a relationship that has lasted for more than 6 months:

What has/had kept you and that other person together for so long? List 3 things if possible.

Comments 13

nightdreamer136 April 22 2005, 21:22:08 UTC

2+ years

1. really good communication, knowing how to fight and say when something bothers one of us, and owning up to our faults,

2. spending time together but knowing when we need to give eachother space, and learning how to read eachother learning when something is bothering the other. and still doing the little things like holding hands.

3. not having sex, i'm not sure if its a real reason for why, and i think im just paranoid that having it would somehow kill everything we have together. Have everything be about sex and not love.

forlorn_lvbd April 22 2005, 22:09:48 UTC

thank you i appreciate the comment.
I've always admired you for number 3. I dunno I'm just a crazy hormone-filled teenager, and you seemed to rise above that. I think that's awesome.

festoonedrabble April 23 2005, 06:04:52 UTC

Past Relationship: 7 months

1. Forgiveness. Not letting every little disagreement or fight be the end of the world
2. Friendship. Being able to have fun with each other. To be able to goof off, tease one another (in a non sexual manner, haha) and just being friends too aside from being in a relationship.
3. I'm going to agree with Martha and say not having sex, or not rushing sex. When you start to rush into all the physical stuff in relationships to fast, it trivializes the relationship and the relationship will probably become more about the physical things than the actual relationship it's self.

forlorn_lvbd April 23 2005, 07:34:19 UTC

thank you for your response!!!

festoonedrabble April 23 2005, 07:38:08 UTC

Why you're welcome!

love_on_the_rox April 23 2005, 07:44:27 UTC

7ish months

1. Communication... We knew everything about one another and it was so comforting to know that someone out there actually knows everything about you, and to know that there is someone you don't have to hide things from (this wasn't easy to acheive, but it was worth it)
2. Acceptance... We always accepted and embraced each others' imperfections. I loved him for not being perfect. It made him seem much more real.
3. Comfort... We always did all we could to make each other as comfortable as possible in our relationship.

Yepp... and I still effed it up. =/

forlorn_lvbd April 23 2005, 09:48:04 UTC

:/ yeah but I mean, at least you know what kept you together for as long as it did. So you can take that into your current relationship to keep this one going.

[I think we share sortof the same mindset in relationships.]

love_on_the_rox April 23 2005, 13:45:04 UTC

Yeah. It seems like we both get scared of commitment past a certain point. It's so unfortunate and I want to break the habit so badly... Grrr.
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forlorn_lvbd April 23 2005, 19:36:41 UTC

yeah, like every relationship I get into I convince myself, "I won't let this one go." but alas, I suck, and can't pull through because there always seems to be some sort of complication messing everything up....

but hey, maybe you and I will meet people that don't come with complications.

I keep just telling myself I'll get over the habit eventually, no matter how mch I doubt it, I keep saying it.

coandca0lilluks April 23 2005, 09:03:52 UTC

8 MONTHS! and still going ( ... )

forlorn_lvbd April 23 2005, 09:49:01 UTC

haha nah you sounded.....umm....not like cosmo.
Thank you for the response.

keep__it__quiet April 23 2005, 14:39:16 UTC

11 months in 4 days. Plus we went out for 3 months before then and yada yada.

1. Honesty/Trust: A relationship cannot last if there is no open communication and if one person is always wondering what the other is doing. When you have faith in the person you're with you never have to worry.
2. Understanding/Compromise: People may try to say that in relationships you will always be the exact same person blah blah blah but it's not true. You have to compromise what you need and want sometimes. You need to understand you're not just one person anymore and that the person you're with is going to end up being the most important person in your life. Everyone wants to say chicks before dicks but it's all circumstantial. I have no problem telling anyone Nate is the most important person in my life.
3. Romance/Affection: It creates the mood and keeps things exciting. What is love if there is no feeling or emotion?

♥

forlorn_lvbd April 23 2005, 19:37:03 UTC

everything you say always makes so much sense.