an introduction

[formerfetus]

who?!

i am barely nineteen years old and a high-school graduate. i took a year off to travel and learn life lessons and i plan on attending college in august. i will be living in a dorm with a bunch of fucking retarded girls and studying who-knows-what. none of this stuff really matters to me right now. i've got bigger issues.

what?!yesterday i

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[knowyermonkey]

ouch..you poor kid.

don't mean to get up on a high horse, but i gotta say
the unprotected sex...really really bad idea
(and i'm sure you know it now better than ever, but knowing isn't enough if you don't act on it)
sooooo dangerous...pregnancy may even be one of the better outcomes considering some of the other health hazards out there
and i'd be happy refer you to a handful of sites to explain why it's a bad idea if you don't already know

also..from experience
don't fuck drunk
you do stupid shit, you forget basic rules and it's not as enjoyable

[formerfetus]

yes i know things.
thank you.

[nero_fiore]

I know everyone has an opinion on what you're doing...and I'm sure I do too...but I'm not here to push it on you. It's your life, your body and your choice. I will commend you for making this journal...it's a brave thing to do and I'm sure you've already realized had to deal with your fair share of insistent opinions.

I was 18 and pregnant once.....I took a different road, I placed my first child for adoption. It's a funny thing about pregnancy, no matter what road you take, it changes you forever.

[xluckyforyoux]

I respect you imensly for your decision.

[formerfetus]

thank you very much for your respect and understanding.

i really really really hate adoption. i'm sure i'll make a post about that later.

<3

[nero_fiore]

I'm sure you have your reasons for hating adoption.....

I was one of those lucky birthmoms that gets to see their child and has a completely open and loving relationship with my son's family....but I am an exception to the rule. I've seen many girls go through what they thought was an open adoption only to have the adopted parents change their mind and cut off all contact. If that were me, my opinion of adoption would be completely different.

[otokodatesboast]

Good luck.

I hope the boy helps you as much as he can because we was half of the mistake and cannot come close to bearing half of the burden of it.

[formerfetus]

thank you!

and yes he is doing all that he can. read the conversation we had under "cut and clarified" to see how terrible he feels.

[otokodatesboast]

I did take a look and I hope he comes through for you.

One of my best friends went through this and I think that living it and experiencing it and expressing it will hopefully allow you to get past it intact.

[karen25]

Hey sweetie - There is an LJ community called "abortionstories" - it is highly moderationed, non judgemental, just a place to share your experience, good or bad. If someone where to make a hateful, judgemental response to a post, it would be deleted.

Since you seem to need to tell your story, you might want to join there.

i've never been in this position (only due to luck), and i can't imagine what you're going through. Hugs.

[likeiamhome]

I just found your your lj through a friend. My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for three years, so I don't know what it is your going through. I was dignosed with PCOS and endometriosis two years ago which would explain why we haven't succeded yet. I'm on pills now, but so far they haven't helped. :/

Part of me wants to beg you to really think about adoption, but it's only because I feel the need for a child so badly.

I respect that you've made your desicion. I'd like to add you and ask if you'd add me in return.