So I met a guy...

[fragile_k]

We'll call him "JR."  He's smart and funny.  He asked me out right away and was actually nervous that I would say no.  It wasn't like I was even dressed nice that day and I wasn't even wearing makeup.  Not that I am a girly-girl like most of you know, but having a guy notice me and compliment me out of sincerity and not out of lust is just... so

Comments

[troupatour]

Sounds like you're doing the stuff the right way and that you've gotten a good start. You do deserve it. It's ok to be a little reluctant to let someone in, but you need to do it a little at a time. You're doing good. And telling people about him is a good step to letting him in.

If you want to overanalyze every step then feel free to drop me a line. I know a LOT about early dating and about the etiquette and what you're saying when you do this, and when he does that what it means, and all of that stuff. But mostly the trick is "never lie, even if you're not telling the whole truth. Never be someone else, even if you're not being all of yourself. And never let yourself do something that really scares you, but don't be scared to be a little nervous."

[fragile_k]

We both seem to be on the same page when it comes to telling the truth. Lies are so pointless. And I don't know how to "date" but I know how to overanalyze. I am trying to be "good" and so far I think I'm doing ok. It's just... I'm waiting for something bad to happen or to wake up and realize I lost my rose colored glasses (or maybe he lost his).

[troupatour]

Well, since I'm so jaded I could sing It's Not Easy Being Green and not need makeup, I'm probably not the ideal guy for pumping you up... but that said, most of us seem to be intent on screwing things up by deciding that we don't deserve to be happy. So we start looking for things that are wrong with the relationship. Or we start looking for things that are likely to go wrong later

[fragile_k]

I really like your comment about the rose colored glasses. But about shooting JR, that's just... wrong...