lol - you probably knew *I'd* have something to say! ;pladynineMarch 3 2009, 19:03:32 UTC
Get your hair done, for sure. You'll feel great about how you look and this will translate into confident body language - sexy! Same with what you wear - I'd opt for what you're more comfortable in - no fussing with anything you're not used to wearing
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Re: lol - you probably knew *I'd* have something to say! ;pfragilemuseMarch 3 2009, 20:31:16 UTC
Stick away from revealing stuff that's depressing (family trauma stories, whatever) unless she specifically asks. Just 'cause she may be a good listener doesn't mean she needs to know!
this!!!
a couple months ago i went out for coffee with a guy, not a date or anything, just hanging out and getting to know each other since we'd only met once before at a job.. anyway, he started telling me about these deep family issues from his childhood that left me going o_O at the amount of anger he was expressing up as he talked. i didn't mind him telling me because i am a good listener, but it also left me feeling glad that he was off limits as someone i would consider dating.
Instead of worrying that you're doing things right, try to approach it as seeing if she does things right. Make sure that she meets *your* expectations. You've got a lot to offer someone, and if she's worth your time, she'll recognize that - so don't get too caught up in impressing her, let her do a little bit of work too :)
As for a first meeting, I think that playing it conservatively is perfectly fine. If there is in person chemistry, the flirting will come naturally.
And, lastly - just enjoy it for what it is, a new experience!
i always think of these first meet and greets like an interview :) ladynine had great suggestions. i would go in with a bunch of things you want to know about her. i always like it when someone i am meeting asks me questions and seems to be interested in who i am.
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This is great advice.
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this!!!
a couple months ago i went out for coffee with a guy, not a date or anything, just hanging out and getting to know each other since we'd only met once before at a job.. anyway, he started telling me about these deep family issues from his childhood that left me going o_O at the amount of anger he was expressing up as he talked. i didn't mind him telling me because i am a good listener, but it also left me feeling glad that he was off limits as someone i would consider dating.
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As for a first meeting, I think that playing it conservatively is perfectly fine. If there is in person chemistry, the flirting will come naturally.
And, lastly - just enjoy it for what it is, a new experience!
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Invest in Mutual GIC's.
Other than that, don't be a dumbass and you'll be fine.
{And listen to ladynine}
Logan
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good luck!
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