is there anything the doctors can tell him? can your mom tell them he's still working too hard and ask them to ask him to take it easy? maybe compromise with him, somehow, lord knows how, but to only work a few days a week if he must?
is the chemo atleast doing what it needs to and he's just getting tired from it all?
my mom has tried to tell him, as have the drs... he just says 'ok' and then ignores them..
we're not sure yet if the chemo is working.. they're doing some kind of test next week or the week after, dont remember.. and it should let us know how much of the cancer is or is not gone...
yeah. if only he wasnt so technologically BACKWARDS i could come up with A MILLION things he could do from a computer at home.. but the man has no clue how to turn ON a computer, so thats out of the question..
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oh well.
i've said for a long time, not even joking, 'he'll retire when he dies'. i dont think people realized how serious i was.
Speaking as a person that was a full time caretaker for someone with cancer, it is important to let them do what they feel they can do. People with cancer need to feel like there is something in their life they can still control because they feel so out of control of everything else.
Give him things to do that are sitting rather than standing, but still involved with his business.
I know it's frustrating, but in the long run it will save you both.
all of his work at the lab IS sitting. it is still exhausting him. i just dont know what to do. i can totally understand him needing to be in control of things.. its just that at this point he needs sleep. he falls asleep AT WORK. i just dont know what to do for him.
Try maybe getting the doctor to switch his treatments to Fridays? And also making them in the afternoon instead of mornings. That way business has wrapped up for the week and he has that evening and the weekend to recover then go back to work on Mondays. Or even if he goes in to do something at that time, theres no one around and he can go at his own pace. All of this is assuming the business is a regular 9-5 m-f type thing. Thats what we had to do with my mom when she was going thru chemo bc she was the same way.
his treatments are on fridays. (except the one on the thursday before christmas). and he doesnt get out til late. but he STILL comes up there. and its getting to where he's still tired on mondays. and tuesdays. i mean, he's just wiped out. all the time. he doesnt even rest on the weekends... he goes out with my mom, shopping or whatever.. he has never been one to sit at home, and he still wont.
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is the chemo atleast doing what it needs to and he's just getting tired from it all?
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we're not sure yet if the chemo is working.. they're doing some kind of test next week or the week after, dont remember.. and it should let us know how much of the cancer is or is not gone...
we're keeping our fingers crossed.
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I know we were never able to get my dad to stop working so much, stubborness can be a blessing and a curse.
If only there was some way you could come up with stuff he could do from home.
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::sigh::
oh well.
i've said for a long time, not even joking, 'he'll retire when he dies'. i dont think people realized how serious i was.
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Give him things to do that are sitting rather than standing, but still involved with his business.
I know it's frustrating, but in the long run it will save you both.
Good luck.
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