This is Stef writing, but Brandon and Elijah are close by, so who knows which one(s) of us will be writing by the time this is finished
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We don't say it this way on the community, but this is why we hate what gets done with the therapeutic model. Every detail and sub-detail of a multiple's group gets named, labeled, boxed and pigeonholed. It all has to have a reason, all referring back to some specific incident of abuse and trauma that made the splitting off of that person necessary. This is annoying even to a lot of the classically trauma-split groups we know.
The worst part is when the clients then pick it up and use it on each other in chatrooms and whatever, because they assume that's the way it's done, because that's what they were told by their "T".
If they would bother to ask the client where things come from, they might learn something. Presuming that the client doesn't know and has to be told is just
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your rant (Stef)freddie2431September 29 2011, 00:56:34 UTC
I quite agree. *Especially* about multis picking this line of thought up, and running with it! That is so damn maddening! (Gah! Geez!)
I don't really even understand that. The only sense I can make of it, is that maybe the multi-system gets absolutely no real nurturing attention in life, except from the T who becomes like a parent figure. In that sense, I suppose one might.....start kowtowing to the T, the way, say, a 6-year-old tends to believe whatever the parent/s say. (Yet in a year or two, the kid will start to question. And we're talking about grown multis, mostly. But....maybe it's because kids have a nurturing peer group - ? That can't be it, though, because I had no nurturing peer group, yet by age 7 I knew my parents were wrong about a lot of things...)
Hahahahaha! (Stef)freddie2431September 29 2011, 04:12:52 UTC
Okay, I couldn't help but look at the comments - not all of them. I got as far as far as the one that said, "This story is written bad. To bad, to screwy." I was laughing "to" (!) hard to read the rest.
Too bad that whole thing did end badly. Sounds like it would have been a hoot....and Beaverton, is close to Portland where my daughter lives! She's a huge LOTR fan too, it would have been great if it could have been a yearly thing and we could have visited it together. Something that would be right up our alley.
Also I think Rusty would probably have enjoyed it. My whole family loves LOTR. (Gee, maybe I should call my old T, and make sure she has my whole family banned from keeping up with any websites. After all, we might be a whole family of celebrity stalkers, right...? Stupid bitch.)
Thanks for the link to the article. It was interesting.
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The worst part is when the clients then pick it up and use it on each other in chatrooms and whatever, because they assume that's the way it's done, because that's what they were told by their "T".
You know, I wonder if this asshole had possibly seen this
http://www.wweek.com/portland/article-3414-hobbits_gone_wrong.html
(as always, ignore the comments).
If they would bother to ask the client where things come from, they might learn something. Presuming that the client doesn't know and has to be told is just ( ... )
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I don't really even understand that. The only sense I can make of it, is that maybe the multi-system gets absolutely no real nurturing attention in life, except from the T who becomes like a parent figure. In that sense, I suppose one might.....start kowtowing to the T, the way, say, a 6-year-old tends to believe whatever the parent/s say. (Yet in a year or two, the kid will start to question. And we're talking about grown multis, mostly. But....maybe it's because kids have a nurturing peer group - ? That can't be it, though, because I had no nurturing peer group, yet by age 7 I knew my parents were wrong about a lot of things...)
Gah. I don't know. I don't get it.
Going to click on that link now.
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I got as far as far as the one that said, "This story is written bad. To bad, to screwy."
I was laughing "to" (!) hard to read the rest.
Too bad that whole thing did end badly. Sounds like it would have been a hoot....and Beaverton, is close to Portland where my daughter lives! She's a huge LOTR fan too, it would have been great if it could have been a yearly thing and we could have visited it together. Something that would be right up our alley.
Also I think Rusty would probably have enjoyed it. My whole family loves LOTR.
(Gee, maybe I should call my old T, and make sure she has my whole family banned from keeping up with any websites. After all, we might be a whole family of celebrity stalkers, right...? Stupid bitch.)
Thanks for the link to the article. It was interesting.
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