What the Fuck is WITH that....

[friar]

Why the hell am I always attracted to the women who are hurt and depressed
instead of the mostly happy, well-adjusted ones? I've got enough of my own
self-imposed baggage already. You'd think I'd learn.

Comments

[jerronimo]

yah... i know how you feel... i hear you.

[cooan]

there's no fun in happy and-adjusted dating! well, i suppose there is. you just have to... have it be a two way street. where you can put your baggage on one another. then it shouldn't be so bad. i dunno.

just have a slurpee.

[babygurl7884]

I'm no relationship expert or anything!! Maybe you have too high of expectations of the type of girl you want!! or oyu may be looking in all the wrong places for that special someone!! You also could be looking for someone just like yourself thats why you have girls with issues!!

who really knows!!

thoughts

[linus52]

Hrmph. Be sure to note that this is coming from me, of all people ...

... Sometimes you just need to analyze what you are projecting, and what is attracting others to you as well. There may be an 'ideal' girlfriend, but if she truly exists for anyone, I do not know. Seeing what is seen in you, and why you attract what you do may be a key to this.

Take some time to look at what is coming to you. Why did the Universe do this? What can be learned from here? There are times where a Non-perfect non-dreamlike relationship can turn out to be the best thing that happens to you. And even if nothing comes of it, it could still have been the best learning experience of your life.

Of course. the fact that women are at least entering orbit arround you puts you far ahead of some of us who are just dead bulbs...

More on this if I can think of anything .....

[nightowlrn]

After giving this alot of thought over the years, I believe that sometimes people are attracted to those who are unhealthy for them because either they know that the situation won't work or that they will be unhappy in the relationship. And I also believe that alot of people are afraid of happiness and find that being in a bad situation or relationship (or being alone) is easier that risking being being hurt when a good/happy relationship ends.
But then again this is only my own personal opinion/personal experience.

[friar]

Didn't realize you had a journal.
Anyway, I can say that this isn't what is going on. My problem isn't so much that I am attracted to what is unhealthy for me, I can deal with that no problem. It is much more that I have a Need to help. A Need to try to fix what hurts them. The problem is that nearly every time I've tried to help, they don't WANT it. ALL of them have said they don't deserve it, and nothing I've come up with has gotten through those barriers. I've had to give up so many times, I've gotten to the point where I now try to fight the urge to help in the first place. Fighting the urge to be nice is just plain WRONG and confusing. Which is the whole emotion behind this post.