Ok.. so my comments weren't on the mark last time... maybe this time?
Coming from the other side of this situation, there is a two edged sword here, and I am not sure how to really tell you how to figure it out. There were plenty of times where I would push HARD on the people closest to me- push them away and try to make them upset and leave me to prove to myself that I wasn't worth it. It was also somewhat of a test to see if they really cared. Basically, they could have been testing you- to see if you would stay even though they were "unworthy" of the attention or help. Unfortunately, NOTHING really gets through that barrier from the outside- it has to come from their inside. And it can take years, and some real nasty knocks along the way. (some scars are still here)
Is it possible you are trying so hard to help others to avoid fixing something about yourself? It is often easier to deal with someone else's problems instead of your own. I found that once I started working on my own issues (which was very hard), I could help others without getting completed emeshed in their lives and without getting hurt if they didn't want or accept my help. And I am one of the nicest people I know :)
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Coming from the other side of this situation, there is a two edged sword here, and I am not sure how to really tell you how to figure it out. There were plenty of times where I would push HARD on the people closest to me- push them away and try to make them upset and leave me to prove to myself that I wasn't worth it. It was also somewhat of a test to see if they really cared. Basically, they could have been testing you- to see if you would stay even though they were "unworthy" of the attention or help. Unfortunately, NOTHING really gets through that barrier from the outside- it has to come from their inside. And it can take years, and some real nasty knocks along the way. (some scars are still here)
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