just because no one had said anything≠there being a problem. also, the amount of maturity you're handling this situation with only proves everything that has been said.
a difference between defending yourself (maturely), and defending yourself immaturely (the way you are).
No one is saying "stop acting like that right now." people are asking you to watch what you what you say, and mabye act a bit more mature. you are acting as if people are coming to you and kicking and spitting and saying "No no no no no!". What's making people upset, is the way you're responding to this entire situation.
A person would normally say "you know what, you might be on to something, I'll try to watch what I say", but you're doing the exact opposite of that.
I never once said I was refusing to listen to anyone... if you want to assume I'm just going to go charging through life like a bull in a china shop, go ahead.
All I asked was for specifics.. all I got was vague answers.
it shouldn't take examples to tell you that there might be something wrong with some of the things you say. you're acting as if without examples, the things people are saying isn't true.
this is very exhausting from my end, and i will stop here, but i really hope that you take into consideration what people are saying, because i do want to like, and respect you, but you make it really hard.
It's not my place to say something like that directly, sunbae. Seeing as this is an honesty meme, I chose to tell you in hopes that you could recognize the issue yourself.
Different things make different people uncomfortable for different reasons. Lots of things have been said, some things other people have said have made me uncomfortable as well. But unless I know what was specifically said, there's not much I can do. You can always message me at my journal, though I'm not sure if it takes anon PMs...
As I mentioned before, age and status is a factor on my part. I cannot and will not confront you face to face. While you may be comfortable with speaking of certain topics, others that would like to join into a discussion aren't and therefore try not to get involved. The most I can say is be more mindful of what you say and more tactful of where you say them.
You're not the only inappropriate one, but with all due waning respect, you're older than and a sunbaenim to many. I'm sure you're well aware that you have a lot more power and say than others. If you were more careful with your words, others would follow suit.
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No one is saying "stop acting like that right now." people are asking you to watch what you what you say, and mabye act a bit more mature. you are acting as if people are coming to you and kicking and spitting and saying "No no no no no!". What's making people upset, is the way you're responding to this entire situation.
A person would normally say "you know what, you might be on to something, I'll try to watch what I say", but you're doing the exact opposite of that.
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All I asked was for specifics.. all I got was vague answers.
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this is very exhausting from my end, and i will stop here, but i really hope that you take into consideration what people are saying, because i do want to like, and respect you, but you make it really hard.
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