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[soulsfriday]

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muse(s): soulsfriday

I don't often post for critism but recently I realized Chiaki has been trying to stay away from talking to muses just because I fear of making people uncomfortable. It's one thing to tell myself that it doesn't matter what others think, but it's another to actually be brave to go for it 笑 So she has been different from the first time I claimed her, especially how she used to try to talk to everyone. So this time, feel free to tell me whatever you think of her, regardless of IC or OOC. If it's something IC, I can't do much about it but I suppose it's better than just hiding and assuming everyone hates you 笑. (Well though, if that's the case, I can't do anything about it either, I suppose.) Sorry for the long post (；´Д｀).

[soulsfriday]

I'll start off with a negative, so please bear with me, but I'm not sure how aware of this you are, but when Chiaki comments other people's posts, she'll state an opinion (which are often just one worded sentences that feel like there's no depth behind them), and then when asked why she feels that way, she doesn't bother responding. While I'm not sure whether it's a mun issue or a muse issue, it's extremely off putting and makes it rather hard for my muse (and other's), to talk to Chiaki. It seems like she's only putting about 30% effort into the entire reaching out thing, which even though it's effort, it's still a failing grade.

On the positive side, it does seem like Chiaki is interested in talking to people and making friends, which is really really good, and we feel like the response thing could be fixed really easily, and I hope too see more of Chiaki around.

[soulsfriday]

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The fact that Chiaki is often around on AIM and willing to talk in the blast, and talk/befriend with people through that way is also really good, and it does make her somewhat more approachable on the IM front, it's just the comment front that you need to work on.

[soulsfriday]

Thank you so, so much! I will definitely work on it.

[soulsfriday]

I'm completely aware of your negative and I feel bad for it too. It's the both, actually. She wants to reach out and make friends and I'm the one holding her back, probably, worrying too much and ending giving up halfway. I feel scared, to put it in one way, to reach out or have her comment around too much. I know it sounds really stupid when I say it that way and I don't even know why, but I guess it happened when I changed homes and how it happened. I think I'm just too afraid that people won't like her when she talks too much so I end up hushing her even when I finally have the courage to make a comment. I'm really, really, really sorry that she comes off that way because of all these. Once I get over it, I can promise that she will put in more depth and interest in conversations. But I am also aware that at the moment she only feels comfortable talking to her close friends who keep fading.

Sorry I said too much. I'm really nervous, actually, so I ended up rambling a lot. Thank you very much for your opinion. It really encouraged

[soulsfriday]

If this had come a week earlier I would've mentioned how she's grown distant from communicating with muses and seems a little colder than she used to be. I think with this and her posts lately they explain what she's (and you have) been feeling? I hope you get down whatever it is holding you back and let her come out of her shell again. :)

[soulsfriday]

That's really the only reason. As a muse, she was depressed that she couldn't pay enough attention to her friends and making friends suddenly seemed harder. I realized she's really cold and I want to fix it so I'll try harder. I think I just needed some encouragement to know that her friendship is welcomed- if she were to offer it, because she can be harsh and cold naturally but always tried to be friendly in the past. I'm really sorry that she is this way, but I want to thank you so much for commenting, because I think this is giving me the push I needed to get more out there, that it's OK to come out of the shell 笑.

[soulsfriday]

She does make my muse uncomfortable, she has at times come across as cold, harsh, and unwilling or unable to further discuss her opinions or thoughts, but if that's IC for her, it's IC. Not everyone's going to get along, so if they don't, that's just the way it goes. Certainly, nobody should ever hate you-the-mun for Chiaki-the-muse being a difficult personality. I don't know if a break might help you overcome the fear and let her hide less?

[soulsfriday]

I completely understand that and it's definitely OK. There are some muses Chiaki feels difficult to connect to as well, so it's understandable. I think my hesitation just comes from "what if they don't even want to talk to her?" 笑 I know it sounds stupid and I can't expect anyone to like her even without her trying to reach out, but I suppose it's just a feeling? I'll try to get over it and I hope I can change your opinion once she feels more involved in things. But if not, that's cool too. She can be like that sometimes. Thank you very much for your comment, though, I really, really appreciate it. And thank you for putting it so kindly, too. I will really try harder to make her more willing and reaching out in the future. I don't think a break is necessary because I don't have any problems with her voice, only with talking outside her comfort zone for the moment.