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Aug 09, 2005 15:59

Ok, I just got off the phone with a friend claiming that at our age marriage is worse than having a child. Am I wrong in thinking this is crazy? She said that it would hurt their education. Like women get married and just quit school (not that some don't). Isn't the child a little worse for college? At least you get to sleep when you're ( Read more... )

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charyviolet August 10 2005, 02:43:45 UTC

". My friends here at home are all thinking about marriage and scaring the balls out of me. That's why I play video games folks."

i am not so much curious about the child/marriage issue (because i think there is enough evidence to say babies (but not necessarily kids) are detrimental to college) as i am about why you all find marriage to be such a frightening prospect at this age.

fromasteryak August 10 2005, 04:22:51 UTC

It's not marriage that scares me, it's the people doing it. People who used to not be able to commit to a hair color.

flashfire3296 August 10 2005, 05:29:49 UTC

i personally see myself as too young to get married. im sure you would agree even though our ages arent THAT far apart, but i dont see people my age as the kind that tend to be that committed to things like that. then again, i see our group as even less likely to handle a kid well, so i would have to say the child idea is worse.

its less frightening at this age for me then it is inappropriate (best word i can come up with and i only mean for me, not in general). right now i have to get through college at the very least. until i have the skills to support the family i join, i do not think i should join.

charyviolet August 10 2005, 19:41:40 UTC

i know what she was talking about now. marriage usually means that you get cut off financially from your parents. so then you have to pay for a place to stay, education, and 1001 bills. usually that means one person has to stop to work fulltime and support one person getting through school.

whereas if you have a child, your parents are sometimes willing to still put you through school and look out for it while you are at class.

fromasteryak August 10 2005, 21:59:02 UTC

I would understand that view, but those weren't her reasons. She actually didn't really have any support, she just kinda said that and expected it to hang freely without debate. I guess that's what frustrated me most.

but those reasons are why I wouldn't really think of marriage unless at least one of us was done with school.