Annoying people!!!
Okay, so some people are naturally annoying. But some people are also naturally annoying AND narsasistic. The brother of my mum's partner is one of those people.
Their mother is in town for Christmas and she is staying with the brother, T. Now, their mother is getting on in age, and is developing memory problems. She often gets lost in our house and often forgets her medicine.
Today, she is staying the night with us, instead of the at T's. T says this is so she spends more time with mum's partner, but she isn't familiar with our house, and last time she stayed she got all turned around at night and almost toppled a heavy bookcase into herself. My mum's partner consulted mum and I about her staying one night before Christmas Eve. We both agreed, but pointed out that last time she got very distressed at waking up in an unfamiliar house. At her age and health, we agreed to only the one night.
Mum and partner went to pick her up from T's place tonight at was 'told' by T that she would be sleeping at our house Christmas Eve night. Not asked, told. This is despite the fact that T had said their mother would stay the holidays with him.
My issues:
1-It isn't T's house, nor is it mum's partner's house. Yes, the partner shares it, but he didn't help buy it, look after it or helps with any chores.
2-Plans had already been made for my dad to arrive earlier for Christmas breakfast and opening the family gifts between mum, me and dad. However, with an extra person in the house, mum is going to be more concerned with entertaining her. (I know this is a selfish concern, but it's been a tradition ever since I was old enough to understand that my family was 'weird' compared to others).
3-We weren't consulted about any of this until the very last moment, when we were unable to discuss anything.
4-This isn't the first time my mum has been forced to rearrage things to suit T's demands. Two days ago T told mum that she should come visit the next day so their mother wasn't alone while he was out shopping, despite the prior arrangements mum had made. My mum is an emotionally fragile person with depression issues-she has trouble saying 'no'.
Everybody is annoyed by T's actions, especially mum and I. Christmas is meant to be a happy celebration, but at the moment it is looking like everybody is going to be angry at everybody.