Custom Facebook timeline cover images!

[ftmichael]

My Facebook timeline has just been updated with a shiny new cover image and integrated profile pic. You should go and admire it. If you would like to also have a custom cover image without having to figure out how to do it yourself, you should contact the ever-talented ganimede, who is responsible for this impressive display.

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Help please!

[anonymous]

Hey off topic but I need advice and I have been reading your journal and thought maybe you could help. I've been considering transitioning, whether its right for me and so on but I have a gf of over 4 years, we live together and have pets together and everything. Even talked about buying a house. I don't know what to do, I don't want to tell her or break up with her. I don't want to lose her but I don't know that to do!!!! I don't want to give everything up if I make the wrong decision but then i think of what I'm missing if its right. I can't stop thinking about it. Please help. I can say I'm doing better tho. The first time I tried writing something like this out, I cried.

Re: Help please!

[ftmichael]

Hey man.

Avoiding transition for your partner is a good way to guarantee an unhealthy relationship. How you feel will not go away, and the more you try to bury it, the harder it will bite you when it comes back up. And it will come back up. You owe it to your girlfriend to show her the respect that comes with being honest about who you are and how you feel, even if that means running the risk of your relationship ending. To conceal your feelings from her is profoundly disrespectful

Re: Help please! (part 2)

[ftmichael]

Must-reads if you can get hold of them - you may be able to find them at your local library or through inter-library loan, or get a cheaper used copy online:

* Luna by Julie Anne Peters (YA fiction)
* Parrotfish by Ellen Wittlinger (YA fiction)
* Becoming a Visible Man by Jamison Green
* The Transgender Child by Stephanie Brill and Rachel Pepper
* Trans Forming Families, edited by Mary Boenke (third edition, 2008)
* Just Add Hormones by Matt Kailey (author of the above-mentioned Tranifesto)
* Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation, edited by S. Bear Bergman and Kate Bornstein
* The Our Trans Children leaflet (sixth edition) - available from PFLAG's Transgender Network for $2 US, or you can save and print it yourself for free. The booklet is their only source of revenue, so if you can pay for it, please do!
* TransGeneration (Ignore what Lucas says in the first episode about hormones being "very dangerous" - they're not, not if you get them through a competent doctor and have regular - which usually means annual - bloodwork

Re: Help please! (part 2)

[anonymous]

Thanks heaps for all the info. I have started looking at some stuff. One thing I want to be sure of before I tell her tho, is of course, do I 100% want to do this. There are times I think I do and times I'm unsure. I know counselling will clear it up but I can't yet. I need to travel and tell people. I want the effects of T, the facial hair and deep voice, will also help when I go out in public, won't get looks. I want to look male! I def know I would want top surgery. But I still have doubts. How??? Am I just scared? Or am I trying to tell myself not to. Sorry about all this I just need to vent and I don't have anyone else. I need to clear it up for myself and see what it sounds like out loud instead of in my head. I think I'm also freaking myself out, like when I look in the mirror I won't recognise myself, although when I look in the mirror now I want to change it. Haha it's so fucked up. I suffer anxiety and depression runs in the family, I'm scared ill change my mind half way through. Just like everything else. How did you know