Comments | fushichophoenix: Just the way it is.

fushichophoenix

Just the way it is.

May 02, 2008 15:15

I have given up all hope that my ex will ever be anything more than an immature man. Yes, all who know the history are shouting and waving pompoms, but I was hoping that he and I could achieve a sense of balance, perhaps even friendship. He is dating a girl named Bri, who is beautiful by the way, and I have the feeling that his actions and feels ( Read more... )

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d_c_m May 2 2008, 20:45:11 UTC

I am joining the pompom crowd with some fireworks. :)

Good for you!!!

Now I would love to help you with your move but I am sick with a cold and alas, will be of no use. So sorry.

When you are settled come over for din-din - bring Robin I gots toys!! - and my Hubby will help you with your financial planning 'cause he is very very good at that and we talk WEDDING!!!

pgreggy May 2 2008, 22:49:37 UTC

I do in fact agree that this is between you and Robert, I don't know Bri, I don't know Mark.
I haven't talked to Robert in a while, so I wouldn't know about this stuff.
Now, if HE said he wanted that kind of relationship with you, then go with it, but if SHE was the only one who said it, then ignore her.

fushichophoenix May 5 2008, 04:16:44 UTC

He says that that is what he wants, and you're right. I guess that I had this stupid thought that while we were never really friends when we dated that maybe we could bury the hatchet and have a relatioship that would be healthier for Robin. I do not want to get in between the two of them, I really hope he is happy and treats her well. I kinda felt that her text message was catty and, while it is true, she has no right talking to me about something that is completely between us.
Is he really going into the army? His dad thinks that he is and I seriously cried about it after I found out. I don't want him to move away, Robin will never know him. Grr...so frustrated.

pgreggy May 5 2008, 04:30:27 UTC

I don't know, I haven't talked to him in a while.
But so you know, even though my parents are still friends and still claim they love one another, it doesn't mean that my relationship with them is very healthy, my dad constantly bitches at me and my mom is distant and kind of boring when I talk to her... the fact is, he constantly talks down about her without her knowing. So there's a possibility that a no love/hate situation could be better, then again, with separated parents there is nothing considered "healthy" so you shouldn't worry about it too much.
But I understand why you'd want to be friends with Robert, because then maybe you'd stay in contact with him, and in turn, Robin will remain in contact with him and still somehow know her father, which I do believe is important that she know him.
I would say "just give it time" but I think you've been doing that for quite some time...
I hope things work out!

fushichophoenix May 5 2008, 06:42:40 UTC

Me too. I worry that Robin won't know him at all. And one of these days he will regret not being there with her as she grows up. I wn't ever say a bad thing about him to her, her opinion of him should be formed completely formed of her own experience not mine. I deal more with his family than I do him, he never calls to check up or talk to her. He rarely comes to get or drop her off, and even then his parents come too. I just don't know what to do with all of this. I shouldn't be hurt that he is telling his girlfriend what a bitch I am, but it really does bother me. I have tried so hard to be good to him.