We all need a little more love, a little more acceptance, a little more compassion, a little more kindness and A LOT less judgment. Let it begin with me.
Your whole post struck a tender cord for me, that statement especially.
If there is anything this life has taught me so far, its that you never know which shoes you will find yourself in tomorrow. Karma has a way of kicking an ass when it needs to.
Yes, I agree with this. It is easy to pass judgment and lay blame, but taking the high road really is the better way.
(That said, it's often a huge challenge to do.)
I am glad that you are supportive of your brother. Shunning and persecution in the name of religion or morality feels like the ultimate oxymoron to me.
PS: I'm curious, does your whole family know that your brother is gay? If so, do they accept? My parents still don't know about my sister. I don't know if/when she will chose to let them in on it, but I can't stand the thought of anyone, our parents included, having bad feelings toward her or thinking that her being in love with a wonderful girl is a "sin" she needs to "overcome". I think I'll have to check out that book.
My whole family does know. He came out probably ten years ago. He lives in Portland and visits here frequently. I think it was never a big deal to the siblings. My parents struggled with it, but never made him feel bad about it. Or like a bad person.
The book is great. And I really think everyone should read it. Especially mormon-type people.
I would feel so bad if Di was treated badly for that. I thought they knew. At least she has a great amount of support elsewhere.
I'm so glad your family was accepting. I'm sure it is so hard to tell your family something like that, wondering how they will take it. It is wonderful that you all support him. It has never been a problem (or even a shock) to me or our brothers. We love Darling and her girlfriend, and I'm glad they are happy. I am a bit worried about how my parents would take it. It is up to Diane if she wants to let the cat out of the bag, but I think our mother would learn to deal in time. Our father will be a different story I'm afraid. But yes, she does have a lot of other support, and that is a good thing.
Was written by our former department chair, whose son was one of the first AIDS deaths in Idaho. A heartbreaker, but also an examination of his deep (and abiding) Mormon faith.
There's a strange irony that the church which at the time deserted the Schows also taught them to journal, to write, and ultimately allowed Brad Schow to tell so much of his own story.
It is so hard to be generous--it's so important to have a call, from anywhere, for generosity, for compassion.
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Let it begin with me.
Your whole post struck a tender cord for me, that statement especially.
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If there is anything this life has taught me so far, its that you never know which shoes you will find yourself in tomorrow. Karma has a way of kicking an ass when it needs to.
Yes, I agree with this. It is easy to pass judgment and lay blame, but taking the high road really is the better way.
(That said, it's often a huge challenge to do.)
I am glad that you are supportive of your brother. Shunning and persecution in the name of religion or morality feels like the ultimate oxymoron to me.
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Most organized religion is an oxymoron to me. lol
I have the coolest brother. And I am SO proud of him.
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The book is great. And I really think everyone should read it. Especially mormon-type people.
I would feel so bad if Di was treated badly for that. I thought they knew. At least she has a great amount of support elsewhere.
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Was written by our former department chair, whose son was one of the first AIDS deaths in Idaho. A heartbreaker, but also an examination of his deep (and abiding) Mormon faith.
There's a strange irony that the church which at the time deserted the Schows also taught them to journal, to write, and ultimately allowed Brad Schow to tell so much of his own story.
It is so hard to be generous--it's so important to have a call, from anywhere, for generosity, for compassion.
Thanks for your post.
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Since you are not too far from the epicenter of the mormondom, I am sure it touches your life frequently as well.
I have lost a lot of friends to the devestation of their homosexuality. Its so heart wrenching.
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