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[gabbygrl]

I might be about to be annoying (I'm coming here because I lack perspective) and if so I apologize!

He said: "If anything did happen it wouldn't be a date and I wouldn't be your boyfriend, and I could just be someone you liked, and that would be pretty in itself."

My first response was "what would it be then?" but the more I think on it the more this

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[teaberryblue]

Since I'm in the middle of doing just that, I think that as long as you, emotionally, can handle this sort of thing, or even just want to see if you can, it's worth doing. It's nice to have someone you like who likes you. It doesn't have to be anything else and people forget, I think, that there are as many kinds of love as there are people in the world who can come together and love each other.

[gabbygrl]

I agree. I think it sounds really great. My problem is last time I flirted with this guy, he got a little intense and there was inappropriate "I love you" and then pestering for a serious conversation about it afterward. I became very uncomfortable and it took a long time for me to be friends with him again. I think I need a casual thing but I'm not sure he's going to be good at it.

[teaberryblue]

Oh lord we should trade stories.

[gabbygrl]

We should!

[embracemoments]

Is what you have to gain if it goes well more than what you have to lose if it goes poorly? 'Cause if so...why not?

[gabbygrl]

What I have to gain... a confusing and possibly fun possibly casual relationship? What I have to lose... my sense of myself as a good person? (That sounds really dramatic but actually I'm not positive this kid is in a good place, emotionally, and possibly my messing with him would do more harm than good.) Which, yeah, when I lay it out like that it really does seem like I shouldn't be talking to him.