Quite Inspired by Katzedecimal: Are you Worthy -
or deficient?
Seems lately I've been reading a lot from people who don't feel they fit in for one reason or another. That, or they have experienced other people trying to tell them they don't quite measure up.
What bullshit and it's being sold cheap too: Not married (often enough), not single (long enough), not straight enough, not gay enough, not beautiful/ugly enough, not disabled enough, poor, dumb, rich, intellectually superior, pain/pleasure is not impressive enough. Sheesh, I thought we had enough trouble with religion and politics.
We all have a variety of life experiences that are unique to us (or in some cases a group of us). That's no reason to get all elitist about the whole thing. What I've had you may not have and vice versa ... time here is filled out one way or another and to attempt to judge the value of the experience of another as it would theoretically apply to oneself is sheer folly.
Women get a lot of the "motherhood, my children are my biggest accomplishment" thing. Well, that's great. For those that feel that way. I wouldn't. Don't even try to tell me I would, believe it or not I know me better than "you" do. Not only that, I've known plenty of mothers who didn't have all those feelings that are waxed poetically about.
Success and accomplishment ideas work that way. Arbitrary perimeters are picked to gage it and we give mouth service saying we understand that it's different things to different people but in fact there are certain standards by which people judge it, for themselves and others. These standards are usually rife with anxiety and lack of acceptance or knowledge of oneself and others.
Same thing goes for the "I've suffered" clubs. That branches into "who suffered the most" contests, then we have the "who would have handled it better" competition.
Newsflash - aside from the actual experience that is your own - you don't know ... you are theorizing, along with perhaps a little self protective wishful thinking.
Most of us are all things in various balances. The balance changes from time to time and situation to situation.
Guarantees don't exist, fairness is a pretty ridiculous concept, nice, but ridiculous if you are expecting it.
We do the best we can with what we have to work with at a given time. That hopefully includes learning and trying to prepare as best we can but becoming crippled trying to manipulate our lives and surroundings is an easy trap which is self perpetuating.
We are all assholes and angels, all aspects of everything reside in us all. A life striving toward a full vision while aiming for the best parts of it is a very good life
Seems lately I've been reading a lot from people who don't feel they fit in for one reason or another. That, or they have experienced other people trying to tell them they don't quite measure up.
What bullshit and it's being sold cheap too: Not married (often enough), not single (long enough), not straight enough, not gay enough, not beautiful/ugly enough, not disabled enough, poor, dumb, rich, intellectually superior, pain/pleasure is not impressive enough. Sheesh, I thought we had enough trouble with religion and politics.
We all have a variety of life experiences that are unique to us (or in some cases a group of us). That's no reason to get all elitist about the whole thing. What I've had you may not have and vice versa ... time here is filled out one way or another and to attempt to judge the value of the experience of another as it would theoretically apply to oneself is sheer folly.
Women get a lot of the "motherhood, my children are my biggest accomplishment" thing. Well, that's great. For those that feel that way. I wouldn't. Don't even try to tell me I would, believe it or not I know me better than "you" do. Not only that, I've known plenty of mothers who didn't have all those feelings that are waxed poetically about.
Success and accomplishment ideas work that way. Arbitrary perimeters are picked to gage it and we give mouth service saying we understand that it's different things to different people but in fact there are certain standards by which people judge it, for themselves and others. These standards are usually rife with anxiety and lack of acceptance or knowledge of oneself and others.
Same thing goes for the "I've suffered" clubs. That branches into "who suffered the most" contests, then we have the "who would have handled it better" competition.
Newsflash - aside from the actual experience that is your own - you don't know ... you are theorizing, along with perhaps a little self protective wishful thinking.
Most of us are all things in various balances. The balance changes from time to time and situation to situation.
Guarantees don't exist, fairness is a pretty ridiculous concept, nice, but ridiculous if you are expecting it.
We do the best we can with what we have to work with at a given time. That hopefully includes learning and trying to prepare as best we can but becoming crippled trying to manipulate our lives and surroundings is an easy trap which is self perpetuating.
We are all assholes and angels, all aspects of everything reside in us all. A life striving toward a full vision while aiming for the best parts of it is a very good life