Stick another fork in me

[gabiwags]

Been gone all day except for something like five minutes with the 'puter on while getting dressed to go to the second family gathering in a week that was specifically for the purpose of saying goodbye to people who are dying

Comments

[katzedecimal]

None of us really know how to do our best for those who are dying. That sort of thing takes practice, to develop your sensitivity for the situation, and how much of that do we really get? Considering that every dying situation is very different, even if we encounter death frequently, we may not get sufficient practice to feel anything other than walking on glass

Thanks Mother Selkie

[gabiwags]

I appreciate this and more ... much love ...gabi(p)

[ladyfay]

Sending you strength sweetness.

(((hugs)))

[gabiwags]

Thanks. You know the drill, give me strength and I want it NOW ... receptive to all that good stuff (hugs)...g

[sheba]

My sincere condolences to you, my sweet. I would add to the wise words above, to just be yourself among the ill and dying. In the same situation, I would want that wonderful Gabi wit and humour to shine one last time for me.

As for friendships... I always say they are works in progress and it helps to define what friendship means for you. I found it helped me to distinguish between a "friend" (someone whom I share my intimate thoughts and more with) and an "acquaintance" (someone who I hang around with and have fun). Both are vital and good for me, but the "friend" is the one who truly hears me, has respect for me, listens to me - really hears what I have to say and is willing to "modify" their behaviour and words around me if I've expressed that those things are really hurting me, whether or not they understand why. (I've had to do the same for some friends of mine in return.) An aquaintance doesn't get privy to my intimate thoughts because they are too vulnerable for someone who doesn't respect me. Whatever is going on - and