Comments | gadgeeuropa: A question of solidarity...

gadgeeuropa

A question of solidarity...

Aug 21, 2003 19:27

Do you truly put your friendships and the group dynamic before yourself , or do you just make sure you're allright?

I'm curious cos a lot of people advocate the former and practice the latter

Disspointing to me anyway.

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barbcure August 21 2003, 21:03:20 UTC

I'd like to think I put my friends before myself. In many occassions I've regreted (people being selfish and circumstances of life) but in a general overview I'm glad I put my friends first and just because a very few had failed me, it won't change my personality ;-)

simon_bretonnia August 21 2003, 21:21:20 UTC

I try and put everybody including myself first to be honest.

But if anybody fucks with one of my friends then I won't have anything to do with them again. Two of the people I detest the most in the world have never done anything to me personally but they have messed badly with good friends of mine. I guess I'm pretty loyal on the whole.

alighieri August 22 2003, 01:52:22 UTC

All i'm willing to say to that is ditto and i think those said people know who they are.

astrofeline August 21 2003, 21:33:24 UTC

I would also like to think that I have put friends needs before mine when they have needed me and I would hope that they would do the same in return. I am here for my friends when they need me but like Toby pointed out friends can sometimes turn out to be just taking you for granted and that can hurt.

faticeira August 22 2003, 07:36:47 UTC

To my mistake, I have often just done what a friend needed or wanted with no thanks or even memory or it, it seems.

I have always been disappointed.

akatheesia August 22 2003, 09:11:42 UTC

I, too, like to think that I put friends' needs before my own, as due to being such an emotional and empathic person, my friends truly do mean everything to me. Because I put so much into the way I feel about my friends, it is often easy to be disappointed when thinking I've been overlooked regarding certain things, or involved in something as an afterthought.. but the key to having friends, is to BE A FRIEND. I find it really hard, but I have to admit, it is more important for me to put my all into being a true friend (in every sense of the word) to someone else, than to expect them to be towards me the way I wish they would be. If I constantly dwelled in that place, I would be forever disappointed - friendship should be unconditional to a degree, in much the way that love is. Because don't forget, friendship is about love. And respect. And GIVING as much as taking ( ... )