ANON POST

[gage]

ANON POST

So I felt like doing one of these in case people needed things to talk about stuff anonymously. I'm not really the best with words, but I'll help as much as I can. I just noticed people have been having a hard time lately and I wanted to try to help out a bit, so.

Bring up whatever you wanna. Rant, ask me questions, etc.

Comments

[anonymous]

this person is bad for me

i'm so worried breaking it off with them will be a repeat of past fuck-ups
and i'll suddenly lose all our mutual friends
because i'm a bitch or something
but i don't want to stay in the relationship anymore

[gage]

i'm sure that won't be the case, though, anon. friends are friends, no matter what. so even if you break it off with them, i'm sure they'll still be there for you.

you aren't a bitch, though. if they're honestly bad for you, then it's probably for the best? especially since, yeah, if you don't want to stay in it, then don't. there's no point in a relationship if you don't actually want to be there.

[anonymous]

i've had a bunch of friends villainize me before
which i always told myself was my own fault for not ending a certain relationship right
it still sort of haunts me to this day
"what if they were right?"
then again they acted like i was some horrible manipulator
called me a cunt
i was never malicious i was just fucking stupid
i guess i'm just terrified of it all happening again
which is why i sit on this issue, too afraid to make a fucking move

[gage]

i'm sorry to hear that anon. but... it's not your fault. you never need to think that

but... see, there you go. that's why you don't need to explain it. you weren't malicious or anything, so there's no point in worrying. it was just a mistake, in a way.

you never know what'll happen until you take the step, though. honestly, though, if they're bad for you, then you should make your move as fast as you can.

[anonymous]

i worry about you

constantly and it feels like i'm too cowardly to say anything

[gage]

i didn't even realize there was anything to worry about, honestly

but it's not cowardly to not say anything. whenever you are ready to tell me, i'll be here.

[anonymous]

i wish i could make you happy

[gage]

anon, i'm sure you make me very happy. why do you think you can't make me happy?

[anonymous]

you deserve so much happiness, more than i can ever give

[gage]

i'm sure you give me more than you think. no matter what amount you give me, that much is enough

[anonymous]

I had a crush on you a while ago! ♡Σ（≧д≦）

[gage]

w-wait what really?

[anonymous]

Really! (・∇・)ﾉ

[gage]

w-what but why

and are you who i think you are anon I CAN ONLY RECALL ONE PERSON WHO USES THOSE FACES...

are you on my f-list gimme hints

[anonymous]

Sometimes I feel like I care too little about things. It's always been a sort of coping mechanism, to just not give a fuck what anyone thinks or bad things that happen because I can't change what they are or what the general outcome is. So why bother caring about something you can't fix, right? But it drives everyone around me crazy because they think I legitimately do not care instead of what's actually going on, which is me actively letting shit go.

Am I making excuses for myself or am I actually justified, do you think?

[gage]

I think you are, anon! It's what makes you comfortable, right? It's a coping mechanism, and like you said, you can't change that. It's not necessarily something that needs to be fixed, either, it's just how you are, and you shouldn't think you need to fix yourself to fit others' needs.

Maybe remind them of that, though? So they don't think that you just don't care about it?

[anonymous]

My parents in particular are convinced I'm just being lazy. Like, job hunting is the current big example because no one is hiring. It's either "you're over-qualified" or "you're not quite suited for this job" (i.e. under-qualified). I decided to just hang back and wait a few months for the job market to get better, and this drives my parents bat-shit.

[gage]

Augh I know how that is. I'm pretty much in the same boat as you, anon, and my mom acts the same way. Just hang in there! Once you do get a job then they won't act that way.