Wow. I think you have a better social life than we do. We've never even thrown a party in the 4 years we've been here. Only had people over for dinner 2-3 times.
I think we're at a strange age. I've found that, at least around here, people in their 40s already have their set of friends. They've known each other for years, been to each others' weddings, etc.
Obviously, since we're new to the area, this doesn't include us.
Add to that, that I am not working (not that my husband would want to socialize with any of MY friends & their husbands) plus that my husband works at a place where most guys are as anti-social as he is. (Those who aren't, aren't the kind of guy he wants to be friends with.)
Sure, i've made friends here. Good friends, not GREAT friends. 98% of them are mommies, so when we're together, it's all about the kids... which bores me after a while.
And that's where Facebook, livejournal, etc come in... ;)
Well, my husband goes out a lot with the guys from work, excluding me. They go to a bar down the street from the office. He doesn't drink, but just enjoys hanging out. I've never been invited to join him...of course that would entail finding someone to babysit.
The company sponsors 2-3 events a year that wives/partners can attend, now that they're independent from Microsoft. In fact, the holiday party was 2 weeks ago.
But... as you've probably gathered from my LJ, he would prefer to spend less time with us. We live 3 miles from work. He could come home for lunch, but doesn't. He doesn't wake up early enough to have breakfast with us. He works till 7 & we can't wait that long for dinner. He could take/pickup Jake from school, since it's in the building next to his, but he doesn't.
Wait, you have parties?!h_postmortemusFebruary 10 2008, 02:06:01 UTC
And you didn't invite us?
I'm offended! (tm)
:)
P.S. Welcome to adulthood. Jenn and I have lived in Raleigh for almost eight years now, and outside of the people we regularly see at work and our neighbors, have almost no friends in the area. One cople we befriended who are very nice ended up moving out of state.
I think it's primarily because once you become an adult with responsibilities, you not only have less free time, you have less flexibility in scheduling. This instantly kills all sorts of activities...
I'd say don't worry about it... And consider socializing with older folks. :0
Re: Wait, you have parties?!garygenFebruary 10 2008, 04:43:29 UTC
Well, you're not exactly local. :p
Anyway, I'm not worried about it, just needed to blog some stuff off my chest. It helped me to stop being so mopey about it. And, admittedly, it was good to hear that we're not the only ones going through this. :)
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I think we're at a strange age. I've found that, at least around here, people in their 40s already have their set of friends. They've known each other for years, been to each others' weddings, etc.
Obviously, since we're new to the area, this doesn't include us.
Add to that, that I am not working (not that my husband would want to socialize with any of MY friends & their husbands) plus that my husband works at a place where most guys are as anti-social as he is. (Those who aren't, aren't the kind of guy he wants to be friends with.)
Sure, i've made friends here. Good friends, not GREAT friends. 98% of them are mommies, so when we're together, it's all about the kids... which bores me after a while.
And that's where Facebook, livejournal, etc come in... ;)
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Well, my husband goes out a lot with the guys from work, excluding me. They go to a bar down the street from the office. He doesn't drink, but just enjoys hanging out. I've never been invited to join him...of course that would entail finding someone to babysit.
The company sponsors 2-3 events a year that wives/partners can attend, now that they're independent from Microsoft. In fact, the holiday party was 2 weeks ago.
But... as you've probably gathered from my LJ, he would prefer to spend less time with us. We live 3 miles from work. He could come home for lunch, but doesn't. He doesn't wake up early enough to have breakfast with us. He works till 7 & we can't wait that long for dinner. He could take/pickup Jake from school, since it's in the building next to his, but he doesn't.
Did I marry a winner or what!?
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I'm offended! (tm)
:)
P.S.
Welcome to adulthood. Jenn and I have lived in Raleigh for almost eight years now, and outside of the people we regularly see at work and our neighbors, have almost no friends in the area. One cople we befriended who are very nice ended up moving out of state.
I think it's primarily because once you become an adult with responsibilities, you not only have less free time, you have less flexibility in scheduling. This instantly kills all sorts of activities...
I'd say don't worry about it... And consider socializing with older folks. :0
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Anyway, I'm not worried about it, just needed to blog some stuff off my chest. It helped me to stop being so mopey about it. And, admittedly, it was good to hear that we're not the only ones going through this. :)
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