Kids

[gateruner]

I don't get it. I REALLY don't get it. I am trying to adapt to this creature that is living in my house now. A fifteen-year-old boy with major moodiness and brooding. It is beyond me how to live with this thing my son has become

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[theemdash]

GOOD LUCK WITH THAT. Teenagers, as I understand, can be quite difficult.

[gateruner]

Indeed. I just hope I survive it! :)

[huntersglenn]

I haven't been there, done that, but Greg has (he's the computer guy in our house, and it was his job, too). How well I remember those arguments! The upside is that now that the boys are older, they will actually seek out their father for computer advice and help

[gateruner]

Thanks! I can't get Carter to understand any of that, esp about the computer security. He always argues that he's got the antivirus and such. I have tried to use every metaphor that I can think of to explain it to him.

You have a security system in your house and give someone the code. What good does the security system do if you give out the code or the key? I figured that one would work, but no luck. It's only as secure as you allow it to be. You download something and tell the computer it's ok to do so then you've invited it in. I don't know how many other ways to say it.

I just hope I survive this!

[huntersglenn]

You will. There will be many fights, much shouting, lots of tears (on both parts, but he's going to try his hardest to never let you see him crying). He'll refer to you by many bad names, and if you're lucky (and he's luckier), he'll never say them directly to your face. In my case, the name calling happened when my oldest was doing his Eagle Project, and I was the adult who had to keep him on schedule, as he was 17 at the time. I overheard him more than once telling Greg what a royal bitch I was (grin). But, as long as he wasn't saying it to my face, I let it go. Don't get me wrong - it hurt. It hurt a lot. And to this day he's the one who knows just what buttons to push to get me angry and defensive, just as I know his. My relationship with my youngest is a lot smoother, but I'll bet you couldn't tell that from the way the oldest and I were when we went to the oceanfront. When we're getting along, we get along wonderfully (grin). When we don't...

[gateruner]

It's almost a fight every time we talk now. Ugh. I can't wait until he's older. :)

[jr_moon]

Puberty. It's the worst. But honestly, if he wrecks his computer, his loss. Lesson learned to listen to you because you might actually, you know, know something *g*

[gateruner]

So true. I am trying to tell myself this too shall pass.