Oh, sweetie. *pets you* In the "real world," I always feel so alone, because I have no idea how to talk to people and can't be one of those outgoing conversation-starters I really want to be. It seems like introverts and people suffering from social anxiety and/or low self-esteem wind up in online communities like fandom because it's easier to connect, and I'm grateful we have a place like this where we can express ourselves and be understood. It's an awful feeling, being the socially inept one in the room. That's me basically all the time. I'm rarely around anyone worse at small-talk than I am.
But to hell with it. All we can do is our best. The fact that you applied for a job and went to the interview is a big deal, and even if you don't get this one, so what? I would hate sales, too, and every day working for commissions would be torture for me. Something will come around. It may take a lot of time and a lot of applications and maybe even a lot of interviews, but it'll happen
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I definitely find it easier to connect (even though I can still be shy here at times) here online.
Part of me does want them to call back, but then a bigger part knows this won't be a job I'm entirely comfortable with, so I almost hope they don't.
Mike was great. Even though I've been out of work for awhile, he's never pressured me and when I expressed disappointment after the interview he said "At least you tried."
That I have a natural tan line is hilarious :) I also think it's natural to look at other women and feel inadequate. I've only met one person in my whole life next to whom I didn't feel inadequate, and I am a slim not unattractive above average IQ, socially okay kind of person. I know you really want a job, but a job that's mostly commission based will probably make you miserable :( I do hope you get it, though, because it'll be something to put on your cv for the next job!
Part of me does want the job. You know the whole "beggars can't be choosers thing" but I do feel like it wouldn't be the best job for me. So part of me is kind of hoping they don't call.
I would have absolutely hated that. A group interview of that sort would be my personal nightmare, but you got through it. I'd definitely look on it as good experience in interviewing. This doesn't sound like the best job for you but look on the interview as a step in the right direction for getting one you do want.
Something that I didn't discover for a long long time is that the person interviewing you is probably nearly as concerned about making an idiot of themselves as you are. My husband ties himself in knots if he has to interview someone :)
Now I don't know if this is just something all interviewers say, it probably is, but she did the lady interviewing us did say she liked all of us and seemed impressed with some of my answers. So the interview definitely wasn't a total loss.
I had to do a group interview when I first moved to London and it was absolutely the worst experience. I didn't like how my answers were influenced by the other people and I hated the attitude of the other applicants. I don't really have a high bullshit acceptance and I hated the fakeness of the people interviewing. And there was a group part? I was like, "-.- I've been doing retail for 10 years. I don't need to do a group project."
And I think it makes us more self-conscious but you're automatically comparison your looks, fashion, everything to the others. And that is stressful. More stress added onto the interview.
But -- you did your best, you went there and answered their questions. Now it's up to the universe. And the annoying thing about these interviews is that you have no idea what they're looking for and what they thought of everything else. So fingers crossed!! :) I'll keep you in my thoughts!
The other women were perfectly nice, but a lot of it did seem fake and like they were trying a little too hard. And I was, too. I definitely think the group thing made me far more self-conscious than I would have been otherwise.
The interviewer said that we all had good answers and liked all of us. But that doesn't really help any of us since there are only so many positions available.
I have to say the group interview would have been terrible for me so I feel your pain when it comes to that. I hate those sorts of things. Talking to people is awkward and I do the same thing where I just sort of sit there and think comments but don't say them.
I'm really glad Mike was there for you though.
And is it a natural reaction to go have a feast after a crap day? Because I did that yesterday with my friend and we even wanted ice cream after and sat and waited until we weren't full to buy the ice cream.
I think it is a kind of natural response for a lot of people to seek food as a sort of comfort after a bad day.
LOL at you and your friend waiting out your stomachs until you could get ice cream. Mike said he was full after dinner but when I suggested ice cream he was like "Well, I can make room for that."
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But to hell with it. All we can do is our best. The fact that you applied for a job and went to the interview is a big deal, and even if you don't get this one, so what? I would hate sales, too, and every day working for commissions would be torture for me. Something will come around. It may take a lot of time and a lot of applications and maybe even a lot of interviews, but it'll happen ( ... )
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Part of me does want them to call back, but then a bigger part knows this won't be a job I'm entirely comfortable with, so I almost hope they don't.
Mike was great. Even though I've been out of work for awhile, he's never pressured me and when I expressed disappointment after the interview he said "At least you tried."
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I also think it's natural to look at other women and feel inadequate. I've only met one person in my whole life next to whom I didn't feel inadequate, and I am a slim not unattractive above average IQ, socially okay kind of person.
I know you really want a job, but a job that's mostly commission based will probably make you miserable :(
I do hope you get it, though, because it'll be something to put on your cv for the next job!
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Something that I didn't discover for a long long time is that the person interviewing you is probably nearly as concerned about making an idiot of themselves as you are. My husband ties himself in knots if he has to interview someone :)
"Not me. I have a natural tan."
You should have said that :)
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I had to do a group interview when I first moved to London and it was absolutely the worst experience. I didn't like how my answers were influenced by the other people and I hated the attitude of the other applicants. I don't really have a high bullshit acceptance and I hated the fakeness of the people interviewing. And there was a group part? I was like, "-.- I've been doing retail for 10 years. I don't need to do a group project."
And I think it makes us more self-conscious but you're automatically comparison your looks, fashion, everything to the others. And that is stressful. More stress added onto the interview.
But -- you did your best, you went there and answered their questions. Now it's up to the universe. And the annoying thing about these interviews is that you have no idea what they're looking for and what they thought of everything else. So fingers crossed!! :) I'll keep you in my thoughts!
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The interviewer said that we all had good answers and liked all of us. But that doesn't really help any of us since there are only so many positions available.
Thanks for keeping me in your thoughts. :)
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I feel a little better about the interview more removed from it. I think my answers weren't too bad. I think I'm okay with whichever way it turns out.
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I have to say the group interview would have been terrible for me so I feel your pain when it comes to that. I hate those sorts of things. Talking to people is awkward and I do the same thing where I just sort of sit there and think comments but don't say them.
I'm really glad Mike was there for you though.
And is it a natural reaction to go have a feast after a crap day? Because I did that yesterday with my friend and we even wanted ice cream after and sat and waited until we weren't full to buy the ice cream.
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LOL at you and your friend waiting out your stomachs until you could get ice cream. Mike said he was full after dinner but when I suggested ice cream he was like "Well, I can make room for that."
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