First Impressions

[geekslave]

It's kind of interesting when you discover things about yourself that you didn't realize. Or, maybe things that you were kind of aware of but didn't realize was such a pattern. I went wedding dress shopping this weekend (separate post later) and it struck me that the two dresses I ended up loving the most were dresses that didn't necessarily wow me

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[dieastra]

I know what you mean. I had the same thing happen a few times. For example, I was fan of a German a-cappella band, where two were the front singers and three more the background. So of course you concentrate on the front at first like everyone else. They are the ones that give all the interviews either. But once there was a documentation, and the man from the background (who also happens to write all the songs, so he is a great musician) also was interviewed, and despite him really not having the greatest of looks, I suddenly went: OMG he has beautiful eyes. It's really like a reveleation, sitting on the sofa, realizing this. (here is a picture of him: http://file1.npage.de/003753/50/bilder/wolfgang.png )

That's why I never really believed in love at first sight, I think you need to know the person first better. Then again, JB claims that this is what happened to Scott and him (mutual) so I guess it must be true.

[geekslave]

Don't really believe in love at first sight either. I definitely believe in attraction at first sight and feeling a connection to someone but I also don't believe you can truly love someone without knowing them.

Stacey

[geekslave]

I definitely am glad I'm more aware of this now and do hope it helps me to not dismiss things so quickly. First impressions are great, but they aren't everything.

Stacey

[floating_fog]

I think this sort of thing is pretty common no? I mean, you don't have to instantly love something at first sight to feel connected to it and you don't know you love something (or someone) until you've spent some time with it (err or him) :)

[geekslave]

I think some people do believe in love at first sight. I know that first impressions are supposed to be really important and they really are to some people. I do think there are people who don't rely on them so much. Not sure which ones more common.

Stacey

[floating_fog]

It's individual that's for sure. I don't think first impressions are that important, some of my best friends are people whom on first impression I would have never been in touch with them :)

[wwmrsweasleydo]

I never trust my first impressions anymore. I can't judge anything on first seeing/hearing/meeting. I've learned to take my time and not jump to conclusions. My mum is very proud of how good her judgement and first impressions are. It makes her blinkered about reassessing. She tends to stick to that first idea regardless, which makes her quite closed-minded. I think your way is much better. Now, about these wedding dresses....

[geekslave]

Sometimes I can trust my first impressions, sometimes I can't. It's definitely better to keep an open mind and not be so rigid.

Did a post about the wedding dresses. :)

Stacey

[leviathans_moon]

well, it's a good thing you gave him that wink*g*

In some respects I'm the same. sometimes I just need to warm to things or people and then I really love them.

it was like that with one of my best and closest friends. it was alright and funny at the beginning, but I wasn't necessarily to eager to spend that much time with her at first, and over the years she just blew me away with her personality and loyalty and kindness and enthusiasm that now I absolutely love her and couldn't imagine not having her as my friend.

[geekslave]

A very, very good thing. :)

Your friend sounds great.

Stacey