I literally cannot win....

[geeky_ginger]

Welp, it looks like now we ARE going to lose the house. The lawyer emailed me to tell me that when she got the deed to the house she discovered a 6 year old lien on the estate back from when mom got sick my Freshmen year of college and her social security fucked up and told her she was able to work and cut off her insurance while she was in a coma

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[ewanspotter]

Normally I'd be all about "keep trying!" but this just seems like such an unwinnable battle. If it's not one thing, it's another.

It won't be easy, but in the end, this might be what you need. It is a burden, and one you don't deserve. I know you wanted to save it, but I can't believe your mom would want you struggling so much over this and not being able to move on with your own life. :(

[geeky_ginger]

It really does seem unwinnable doesn't it? I'm fought for a solid year and now it's like someone tripped me right before I reached the finish line and I'll never get there now.

I just hate to see what's to come of us all...we have no where else to go...Dad can barely afford to take care of himself, my brother has no job...where will we all live if they kick us out. How about the pets? I mean I know I wanna live on my own or with a roommate, but where will my dad and bro go...I'm just a jumbled mess at the moment. I want to just give up, let them have it and move on because honestly, I can't take this pressure anymore. I just want to live my own life, not the one forced upon me.

[ewanspotter]

I mean, obviously if you change your mind and feel like it's something you need to do, then it's the right decision. (And it can't hurt to at least get in touch with the companys involved, explain the situation and see what happens. You really do never know.)

But even if they lower the fee, or let you pay it off, you're going to be saddled in debt just trying to save this house. And then where will you be in ten years? Still paying for the house, probably having the same issues you have now.

[geeky_ginger]

I mean I'm going to try to resolve this but when the lawyer talked to me via email...she seemed to act like it was a hopeless cause...so I'm treating it as such until I know otherwise...this isn't some tiny amount of money...this is nearly 40 grand...I'd have to sell a kidney to ever see that kinda money.

I don't want to lose the house because mom literally built it...but like you said...just trying to save the thing has burdened me...hell, I've been nothing but a big ball of depression since mom died...and all the issues with this house and having to live with my dad and brother are not helping.

I want my freedom back but I feel selfish that my freedom would come at the cost of my mother's house and a roof over everyone's heads.