How Not to Be Seen

[gement]

So, I spend a lot of time wondering how people are gendering me. Because it's so hard to get masculine speed-reads out of people (most clearly demonstrated through clerks and waitstaff who are required to use a gendered honorific), I tend to get obsessed with it and try harder and harder

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[gipsieee]

Sqeee! That hat is fabulous!

Also, how much does shaved head = strange and/or possibly non-cis-gendered.... even to people who don't know that they know what cis-gendered is?

[gement]

It definitely sets off the Weirdo bell on a feminine-read person. How people interpret that bell varies wildly.

In the case of the coffee shop, I was wearing my cute lavender bobble hat, so I just don't even know.

[gipsieee]

Makes sense.

Joel and I got "ladies" at the airport traveling with the dragon and it made my morning.