Since I lost my bridge [dental bridge?]and I've already got a checkerboard front-face where I've been wearing a partial [denture] for 4 years [5 years?] just so I can confidently say "so" and "ray" and "fa" and "la-ti-da" and "thee" and "thou" and "love" rather than "wuff"... .... I've been in a slump
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Oh man. What a feeling…what an obstacle. What a laden past, carried into the present.
I don’t use the app or whatever version of Lj lets people put little hearts on a post, Facebook-style, and move on. To engage, I have to commit to my “likes” in words, and be specific. So I’ll tell you I love this post but not the events and feelings behind it…but so much love for the heart and mind figuring out the living around the missing teeth.
An endodontist I went to (one of manyyyy that had to peer into my mouth, consulting on its sad condition) literally said: "no, it's not that" when I mentioned genetics that run on female said of my family. I said: "well, my grandmother had teeth like this. My mom has teeth like this. My mom's two sisters have teeth like this. My genetically identical sister has teeth like this. I could also mention my cousins." He straight up didn't believe it and thought I somehow brought myself to this point. As well as my non-hygienic family, apparently. He also lightly suggested potential drug use (!!!). I'll shut up about my genetics if you please, but I will NOT tolerate being side-eyed about drugs. I said: "oh, and if you're suggesting drugs, I don't even smoke cigarettes let alone take any kind of drug." (I'm not knocking *low-class* drug use, btw. Just ain't for me
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God DAMN :( I wish there were a modern fix for this. Like, permanent fix. (Maybe there is, but certainly prohibitive, whatever it is.)
The way you describe how this feels, puts your issue in a similar category as having a visible birth defect, that is constantly drawing the attention of others: "LOOK AT MEEEE" so that people look FIRST to the misshapen arm or whatever, and then have to force their eyeballs and curiosities and thought processes awaaaaaay from "the thing that's different" and to the person's PERSONALITY. Or perhaps rather, The Actual Person.
I don't suppose there's any way around it :( And I'm sorry that this part of your biology trumps, well....YOU. If it's any consolation, we peoples online can't see your treacherous teeth and probably think of you just the same every day. <3
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I don’t use the app or whatever version of Lj lets people put little hearts on a post, Facebook-style, and move on. To engage, I have to commit to my “likes” in words, and be specific. So I’ll tell you I love this post but not the events and feelings behind it…but so much love for the heart and mind figuring out the living around the missing teeth.
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sometimes, no matter how much sympathy one has, it isn't possible to make the other person feel better. Or happier.
So all I can do is send the tightest hugs possible.
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I wish there were a modern fix for this. Like, permanent fix.
(Maybe there is, but certainly prohibitive, whatever it is.)
The way you describe how this feels, puts your issue in a similar category as having a visible birth defect, that is constantly drawing the attention of others: "LOOK AT MEEEE" so that people look FIRST to the misshapen arm or whatever, and then have to force their eyeballs and curiosities and thought processes awaaaaaay from "the thing that's different" and to the person's PERSONALITY. Or perhaps rather, The Actual Person.
I don't suppose there's any way around it :( And I'm sorry that this part of your biology trumps, well....YOU. If it's any consolation, we peoples online can't see your treacherous teeth and probably think of you just the same every day. <3
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