Bait & Switch.

[gender_blender]

Comments

[darac]

Seems to me to be their loss.

OK, if you go to a "Dyke night" you would expect the people there to be expecting females. That's kind of the definition of a lesbian.

But online, it surprises me that more people aren't pansexual. When you meet someone online, all you see is text. If you form a friendship with them, then it's just hypocritical to turn them down just because of what is or isn't between their legs.

But maybe that's just me.

[gender_blender]

Not necessarily. My last girlfriend was openly lesbian and had only dated females prior to me and our relationship was amazing, which gave me much hope at finding more lesbians who base their orientation not on biology, but mentality and personality.

But, then it begs to question, Where should one go that's perhaps better than Dyke Night at locating females seeking something different than the "norm"?

I completely agree with your final statement. In this day of nondiscrimination and openmindedness and considering personaly over all else, why should it ultimately matter what exactly a person retains, often beyond their own control/chosing?

[amokk]

But what gender did she know you as going into the relationship?

Sadly, regardless of situation, some people are just more open-minded than others, but everyone wants to say they're open-minded.

Maybe a generic "fetish night", although then you run other risks, like tranny chasers...

For some people, though, what's "down below" is the defining factor, sadly. :/

[gender_blender]

Female gender, but she knew I was transgender. We talked about it.

Clearly. But my point was, why should/does it matter and what should I do differently (if anything).

Oh yay, I'm a fetish; I can picture it now: walking among leather-clad and latex-laden individuals, being asked "why are you here?".
Yeah, I'm not very interested in being the science project of some gynandromorphophile, unless of course, they belong to the feminine gender, are attractive, drug-free, and preferrably goal-oriented (joking, of course).
Of all the existing popular labels that can be placed upon me to describe my sexual orientation, isn't lesbian the most accurate?

Exactly my point as well. Reasons vary, but the intention is unfortunately and frustratingly consistent.

[sammikitten1981]

wow.. they're missing out.. you're a very wonderful beautiful person. *hug*

[laura_collins]

You pass IMMENSELY well!

I never would have guessed, and it only intrigues me.

I still think you are beautiful.
Then again, I'm bisexual, but I'm a firm believer that what someone has for genitalia doesn't matter unless and until they want it to.

[porno_poet]

Hey, if girls don't work out...

I'm just saying :)

[audpicc]

Ive given this topic a lot of thought and consideration. I consider myself to be label free when it comes to my sexuality. I tend to be attracted to individuals, not groups of people, but ive found that if i had to come up with a group of people that exhibit the sexiest traits that would be the best to have a relationship with, it would have to be the male to female transgendered crowd. There are women out there who would love to jump into bed with a transgendered person, myself included. I actually cant think of a better type of partner. I'm pretty sure there are other women out there like me!

Dont give up girl, youre gorgeous :)