TIPS FOR A HAPPY HOLIDAY

[nyabn]

Comments

[anacas]

The tone of this is very much "how to be as accommodating as possible toward your bigoted family in a few easy steps!" and is really pissing me off. Yes, there are practical concerns people should be aware of to keep themselves safe, but the whole thing gets really fucked up when it goes into territory like If you are transgender, be gentle with your family's pronoun “slips.” Let them know you know how difficult it is. Of course it's everyone's prerogative to "be gentle" if they want to/need to, but to actually give that as advice when it's clearly not what's best for everyone? Fuck that. It's also people's prerogative to not "be gentle" and not put up with bullshit if that's what they need to do. And Be wary of the possible desire to shock your family? What is that even supposed to mean? It's no wonder you stole this from PFLAG; it reeks of being written totally from a straight/cis ally perspective, and not in a good way. In an "I mean well but really totally don't get it" way

[mresundance]

A-friggin' men.

[nyabn]

it certainly is interesting, how even within the confines of this one LiveJournal Community, that there are such completely different and strongly held opinions and reactions to this piece.

[anacas]

It certainly is interesting how you've evaded all criticism

[anunreallife]

Could you get rid of the sparkletext, please? It's hard to read.

[lilphatts]

Don't bother trying to do anything for the trans* community on LJ. I've found they will bash you no matter what the hell you say or do.