To add another to the list, for me a deal breaker would be an inability to support oneself financially, and showing an unwillingness to change that. I am not here to be your financial crutch, nor would I ever ask you to support me long-term (or even short term if I can help it.)
Very true indeed, although religion does tend to lead one into sticky situations.
My hubby has Christian beliefs and background, and he gets really pissy when I explain my belief that the Bible is nothing more than a 5,000-year-old storybook. I once playfully joked that I was going to hell, and he got really resentful about that and declared that he wasn't. So, we don't discuss it much unless it's to compare, and I control my cynical attitude about organized religion to be nice.
Besides, I more important things to argue with him about, like his allergy to cleaning up after himself.
I think I have only two: dishonesty and disappearance.
Dishonesty here defined as breaking any rules of the relationship and not telling me immediately; I'm perfectly amenable to open or closed relationships, but you have to follow the ground rules.
Disappearance is a more complicated and personal one; I Do Not Deal Well with people who fall off the earth. Any lengthy and unexpected non-communication without a damned good excuse is something I couldn't really get over. I'm not talking about someone calling me four times a day; I mean if you stop answering/returning my calls for a week then say "oh, I was busy" I just can't deal with that. I admit it's my personal quirk, but it's not something I'm good at getting over.
I'm assuming here that to end a relationship, you have to have one, which means getting past a few dates. There are a *million* reasons to not have date #2 :)
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My hubby has Christian beliefs and background, and he gets really pissy when I explain my belief that the Bible is nothing more than a 5,000-year-old storybook. I once playfully joked that I was going to hell, and he got really resentful about that and declared that he wasn't. So, we don't discuss it much unless it's to compare, and I control my cynical attitude about organized religion to be nice.
Besides, I more important things to argue with him about, like his allergy to cleaning up after himself.
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Dishonesty here defined as breaking any rules of the relationship and not telling me immediately; I'm perfectly amenable to open or closed relationships, but you have to follow the ground rules.
Disappearance is a more complicated and personal one; I Do Not Deal Well with people who fall off the earth. Any lengthy and unexpected non-communication without a damned good excuse is something I couldn't really get over. I'm not talking about someone calling me four times a day; I mean if you stop answering/returning my calls for a week then say "oh, I was busy" I just can't deal with that. I admit it's my personal quirk, but it's not something I'm good at getting over.
I'm assuming here that to end a relationship, you have to have one, which means getting past a few dates. There are a *million* reasons to not have date #2 :)
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But I think that doing something that makes me lose trust in the person is what would break it for me.
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