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geochick

Endings, Changes...Ramble

Mar 25, 2012 14:58

So, I did it again today. I'm not proud of it, but I'm not sorry either. I'll probably do it again in the near future. I've been cautious about who I've confessed this to, but none of the parties concerned is a friend on LJ, so I figure I can write it here ( Read more... )

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stori_lundi March 26 2012, 11:04:42 UTC

Church is for you, not you for church. You should do what is best for you and your old church should understand. There's no reason why you can't go back and visit from time to time or when Josh is older. Everyone that has had small kids should understand.

castalusoria March 26 2012, 18:03:39 UTC

While I'm not a church member, my thoughts mirror stori_lundi's. Go with what's convenient for now, and visit your "old" home church when it's feasible.

In theory, the notion that it's a difficult decision to make because you like the closer-by church rather well is a good condition to have to face. (If it was "Well, it's closer, but I really don't like it much," one could argue for convenience, but it might even be a harder decision to make.)

Instead of a 'breakup' could you think of your Annapolis church as kind of an "alma mater?" You're an alumna, Weasel2000 is an alum-spouse, the Dumpling is a legacy. You can go back periodically for visits and reunions at your leisure, and be glad to be there and see folks. The potential new church is "post-grad," a place where you've settled for further study, and that's a good match for you.

geochick March 27 2012, 00:43:29 UTC

Thanks to both of you for your thoughts. They are helpful (esp. your college analogy, Casta). I think part of my issue is that I have always thought of being part of a church as being part of a community & I've always dreaded leaving a community... even when it's been necessary i.e. high school, college, grad school, to take the analogy even further). Yeah, I may return for reunions and such, but it's never quite the same. I guess it all goes back to feeling uncomfortable about change... even if it's ultimately change for the good.

Again though, thanks for the thoughts, they are very constructive.