Waitwait. You’re not hearing reciprocation, but he gets mad when you talk about seeing other people? Either that’s seriously fucked up or else your perceptions and expectations are way off. Time for a frank talk with him to figure out exactly what that relationship is and what’s making you a sad Lisa.
Could be you need something else, or it could be you’re perfect for each other but suck at expressing it sometimes. Communicate. Take a look at what it is. If you don’t know what it is then figure it out. Don’t take “I don’t know” as an answer, except insofar as it leads directly to “Let’s figure it out, and pronto, because I’m a sad Lisa, and I deserve a slice of happy fucking pie, too.” Because you do. And you need to take honest stock of whether that particular relationship is helping you find it or keeping you from it.
Haha. I wish it were that easy. For the past 4 years I have been trying to get some answers and stuff. And he has even said "I suck at this", and we both know it. I mean, I know where he stands and what he wants. That's why I feel I need to go out and see other people, but I just don't feel it happening when I am stuck on him. Through no fault of *his* own, just something I have to find in myself to do, but I have no idea how. Or when. I try to, but again, his defunct moods get to me. He's been my world for a while now. It's hard to get out of something you are so used to, know what I mean? D:
Yeah, it’s tough to get out of a rut. I’ve been in relationships like that. Ultimately what it takes is one person recognizing that they’re unhappy, honestly evaluating and accepting the source of that unhappiness, and taking actions to fix it.
By way of example, several years ago I was in a long-term relationship with zydee. After about seven years together, she’d done a hell of a lot of growing up, and I’d done… well… some. Some of the relationship habits I’d grown into were charming at first, but as we grew, they started to annoy the hell out of her. She took stock of why she was unhappy and recognized those problems. She pointed them out and told me they were becoming a problem for her
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Coffee sounds great~ I'd love to. And I do love myself. Alot. It may not seem like it with all the ranting and Emo stuff I have put in the past couple entries, but I even told my mom I would *never* change me. Except, ya know, be better at somethings like Math and drawing art. But that is neither here nor there. Me as a person, I rock. Haha. And I don't want to spend all my time fauning over Steve and or pouring all my love into him. I just...do without realizing it. And I don't know how to stop it. The only way I can figure is to find someone else, but how do I do that when I am so up into Steve? Bah. That and finding people is my hardest thing.
I’m a sad Lisa, and I deserve a slice of happy fucking pie, too.
Don't accept anything less than someone who SEES you. That person is out there, but you won't find him or her if you continue to spend all your time pouring love into a black hole.
<--I utterly and completely agree with both of those statements. And I have to say, I started out as Greta's friend and sort of barely a little bit knew you, but the more I get to know you the more I absolutely adore you! Can I be Lisa's friend now, too? Pweese? You're a wonderful, spunky, fun person and you DEFINITELY deserve a slice of happy fucking pie. And if Steve isn't it, I honestly have no help for you there. I had an ex that I couldn't get over so I moved five states/12 hours away from him and quit speaking to him for over five years. And Voila! I'm over him now. Yeah, not exactly the easy way
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You do, you will and you always have deserved to be happy. And you know that's all I want for any of my friends. I have no ability to change the situation, but I can be here through it
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I'm sorry if what I wrote seemed a little harsh. I just want Lisa to understand that it's disease pathology and not something she's done or some inadequacy. I know what you're going through. I know it seems like no one has ever been to this particular depth of hell, but I have, and I know. Have you considered joining my forum? Some of the girls on it are proana and some are in recovery, but it's a good community and everyone is really supportive. They've all experienced what we have/are experiencing now. It's nice not to be the only one, and sometimes if you can't talk to someone about food, you can type about it. It's 'ed18' - just look at my user info page. Love you darling!
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Could be you need something else, or it could be you’re perfect for each other but suck at expressing it sometimes. Communicate. Take a look at what it is. If you don’t know what it is then figure it out. Don’t take “I don’t know” as an answer, except insofar as it leads directly to “Let’s figure it out, and pronto, because I’m a sad Lisa, and I deserve a slice of happy fucking pie, too.” Because you do. And you need to take honest stock of whether that particular relationship is helping you find it or keeping you from it.
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By way of example, several years ago I was in a long-term relationship with zydee. After about seven years together, she’d done a hell of a lot of growing up, and I’d done… well… some. Some of the relationship habits I’d grown into were charming at first, but as we grew, they started to annoy the hell out of her. She took stock of why she was unhappy and recognized those problems. She pointed them out and told me they were becoming a problem for her ( ... )
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Don't accept anything less than someone who SEES you. That person is out there, but you won't find him or her if you continue to spend all your time pouring love into a black hole.
<--I utterly and completely agree with both of those statements. And I have to say, I started out as Greta's friend and sort of barely a little bit knew you, but the more I get to know you the more I absolutely adore you! Can I be Lisa's friend now, too? Pweese? You're a wonderful, spunky, fun person and you DEFINITELY deserve a slice of happy fucking pie. And if Steve isn't it, I honestly have no help for you there. I had an ex that I couldn't get over so I moved five states/12 hours away from him and quit speaking to him for over five years. And Voila! I'm over him now. Yeah, not exactly the easy way ( ... )
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