DIFFERENT STROKES
I have had some people ask me about where I stand as far as the people I associate with.
So I figured I would take a minute and let people know where I stand.
Alright, so it can be made clear, my first loyalty is to my family. I follow the morals and beliefs that I keep for myself and expect anyone who wears my collar to follow.
I know sometimes that not always expressed, and sometimes that gets a little lost in translation, but if it didn't then the world would be a perfect place and well it's not, but that's ok.
Now that we've got that out let me go real quick and say this: every one has a path in life, and when it comes to things regarding what clubs I choose to associate with, I have my reasons for being with each and every one of them. Many of us have our alliances, ask any OU fan about OSU and see what they have to say. I just want people to realize that we all have needs, and we should realize that we can't always get what we need from one place, hence Polyamory and the whole idea behind leather families.
Ok, first here's to any of the ones that question my loyalty to TDS, I have been with the club for 2 and half years. I have had good times as well as bad, but the group strives to reach out and educate, which I am totally for, as well as continuing many of the traditions of leather life. I also realize that some people wish that their lives not be made public, as do I respect people not sharing their real names ect, but it's not for me. I would like to see them make the effort to actually let people know we are out there, just like some people are scared of coming out about being gay, there are those that fear the idea that they might be sick just because they think about these things. We have so much involvement with other groups yet, we the most we offer to people who are curious is a website, and that usually only happens if you might happen across them outside of, well TDS. I know I heard the whole bit about "well if they want to they will find us", well I did some checking and most we are listed on quite a few list, but so are some of the other groups in the area. I know I was one of the ones that spoke out about not having the groups mix, and I stand by that. I think every one should be able to go where they want and ok so you may not be ok with what goes on, but what about the people who come out and don't want to deal with all the rules. I just want us to be able to say well if you don't really like us, maybe you should look into so and so, or check out this group, and let them make up there own minds.
Now for anyone who wants to criticize my choice of be a part of O.F.F. I know that some people have had some pretty bad things to say about them, and well I can understand why they would think so badly of them. I had my own ideas about them, and well I admit that I was wrong to really make an opinion about them without getting all the facts. Ok so they drink at parties, and, let see a show of hands for anyone who's gone to the bar and drank and then done some kinky shit. Knife play, a little rope, anything? Well, Ok then. Now I realize that it takes a little more patience with them since not everyone that comes to these parties has been informed of the official rules of conduct, but hell that can happen anywhere. We were all new once, and mistakes happen. Plus not everyone has the same level of morals that we have, and lets be fair, some of us have done something that we wouldn't do now. That the whole reason we take people under our wings to try and guide them, and teach them our ways so that they're not lost.
People let a few bad apples that are involved speak for every one in the group without learning about the people themselves. I am not known for being a likable person, but get to know me, and well you will find out there more to me than the surface image. There are people in both groups, that I could say are good or bad, or even the ones like me that are viewed as both depending on who you ask. But I align myself with the people that I relate to, and let the others been seen for what they are.
I guess what I'm trying to say is this, don't bad mouth the group, talk about the person, and please make it point not to bad mouth them. Talk about them to someone in a form that expresses your opinion and state that as such. "Their kink is not my kink, but that's ok" should relate to more then just whether we like whips, floggers, or chains, but that we except the person for being what they are, an individual.
So I figured I would take a minute and let people know where I stand.
Alright, so it can be made clear, my first loyalty is to my family. I follow the morals and beliefs that I keep for myself and expect anyone who wears my collar to follow.
I know sometimes that not always expressed, and sometimes that gets a little lost in translation, but if it didn't then the world would be a perfect place and well it's not, but that's ok.
Now that we've got that out let me go real quick and say this: every one has a path in life, and when it comes to things regarding what clubs I choose to associate with, I have my reasons for being with each and every one of them. Many of us have our alliances, ask any OU fan about OSU and see what they have to say. I just want people to realize that we all have needs, and we should realize that we can't always get what we need from one place, hence Polyamory and the whole idea behind leather families.
Ok, first here's to any of the ones that question my loyalty to TDS, I have been with the club for 2 and half years. I have had good times as well as bad, but the group strives to reach out and educate, which I am totally for, as well as continuing many of the traditions of leather life. I also realize that some people wish that their lives not be made public, as do I respect people not sharing their real names ect, but it's not for me. I would like to see them make the effort to actually let people know we are out there, just like some people are scared of coming out about being gay, there are those that fear the idea that they might be sick just because they think about these things. We have so much involvement with other groups yet, we the most we offer to people who are curious is a website, and that usually only happens if you might happen across them outside of, well TDS. I know I heard the whole bit about "well if they want to they will find us", well I did some checking and most we are listed on quite a few list, but so are some of the other groups in the area. I know I was one of the ones that spoke out about not having the groups mix, and I stand by that. I think every one should be able to go where they want and ok so you may not be ok with what goes on, but what about the people who come out and don't want to deal with all the rules. I just want us to be able to say well if you don't really like us, maybe you should look into so and so, or check out this group, and let them make up there own minds.
Now for anyone who wants to criticize my choice of be a part of O.F.F. I know that some people have had some pretty bad things to say about them, and well I can understand why they would think so badly of them. I had my own ideas about them, and well I admit that I was wrong to really make an opinion about them without getting all the facts. Ok so they drink at parties, and, let see a show of hands for anyone who's gone to the bar and drank and then done some kinky shit. Knife play, a little rope, anything? Well, Ok then. Now I realize that it takes a little more patience with them since not everyone that comes to these parties has been informed of the official rules of conduct, but hell that can happen anywhere. We were all new once, and mistakes happen. Plus not everyone has the same level of morals that we have, and lets be fair, some of us have done something that we wouldn't do now. That the whole reason we take people under our wings to try and guide them, and teach them our ways so that they're not lost.
People let a few bad apples that are involved speak for every one in the group without learning about the people themselves. I am not known for being a likable person, but get to know me, and well you will find out there more to me than the surface image. There are people in both groups, that I could say are good or bad, or even the ones like me that are viewed as both depending on who you ask. But I align myself with the people that I relate to, and let the others been seen for what they are.
I guess what I'm trying to say is this, don't bad mouth the group, talk about the person, and please make it point not to bad mouth them. Talk about them to someone in a form that expresses your opinion and state that as such. "Their kink is not my kink, but that's ok" should relate to more then just whether we like whips, floggers, or chains, but that we except the person for being what they are, an individual.