Some difficulties are more problematic than others

[gillpolack]

This week isn't that easy. It was never going to be, to be honest. Being public on Jewish New Year in this Year of Bigotry requires a certain courage. And my Jewish feminist Australian fantasy novel is out, which adds a certain twist. It's my second week of fulltime work . Fulltime for me means about 60 hours a week, and it takes some getting used

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[murasaki_1966]

Hope your Conflux and New Year celebrations go swimmingly.

Not getting back to you might be evidence of bigotry, or it could be pure thoughtlessness, or a combination of both. Needless to say, you don't need such people in your life. Expunge them from your contacts list.

We will be resting. Last weekend trying to pack up Geraldine's place was exhausting. Also I have sprained or dislocated my thumb. Grumble. I didn't know I used my right thumb for so many things.

[gillpolack]

Thank you :).

It's not bigotry. My friends aren't bigots. But when eight people don't answer... not all of them can be careless or forgetful. But they're still friends. If I expunged every single person who did things like this to me I'd be a lonely soul. Single women of my age are not treated the same as married people of my age. Jews aren't treated the same as non-Jews on a range of things. People who can't drive aren't... You can see where I'm going. I need to look at the whole person for friendships, rather than judging people on their weaknesses. Those with hurtful weaknesses aren't close friends, however, nor as trusted.

[ratfan]

I hear you. Makes me think of all the times I've been forgotten about. Like the time a friend said we'd meet up at a coming convention; go touristing together. He forgot. Went off with other people. Oh, it was just a passing remark, never meant to be serious.

I've learned not to pay too much attention when people say we will definitely meet up/do this again/whatever.

It's important to do what you say you will do.

I wish I had the time off/money to come over.

[gillpolack]

I wish you did too. That's why I asked if you'd be here, a few weeks ago. This dinner.

[ratfan]

If I'm one of the people who let you down, I certainly didn't intend it. I would have liked to come to Conflux, but don't remember giving a definite.....

[gillpolack]

You totally didn't let me down! I assumed you couldn't come. This didn't make me happy, but only because I miss you!!

[leecetheartist]

i hope you have a wonderful time!

[coth]

Always something new to learn.

And prompted me to stop havering about something I dearly wish to do this weekend, have kept open in the hopes that I can, that actually I should have acknowledged weeks ago was not sensible to try for, and really must say, no, this is not happening. And it's a shame but that is the way that it is.

Have a wonderful new year. And the best Conflux you can have with a festival in it.

[gillpolack]

Thank you - I shall have a lovely time :) (all this dealing with problems ahead of things has to have payoff, right?)

[shewhomust]

You are very philosophical about people brushing off dinner invitations, and I'll take your word for it that it's normal for Canberra - but it sounds very rude, to me.

I get more annoyed about scheduling that ignores high days and holy days. Of course, I live in a Christian country (that is, we have an established church): I don't like it, and I think we should change it, but until we do...

[gillpolack]

I don't like it, but I have to live with it. I'd rather live somewhere where this didn't happen! I stopped giving dinner parties for years because I was sick and tired of it, but I miss my friends and so I'm back on the wagon...

[watervole]

That's so sad that people can't even get back to you with a definite yes or no.