I dye my hair a lot too. I don't tend to go crazy colours -- the worst I did was crimson streaks on black -- but I DO colour my hair. A lot. Black, blonde, red, brown . . . I've done it all. My situation isn't quite the same as yours, but I've been lectured about my hair and my piercings by people. I'm training to be a teacher, and people tell me that all those piercings in my ears and my 'crazy' coloured hair is going to make me look bad to potential schools or other such employers.
You know what I think? Screw them.
In the end, it comes down to this: it's your hair. As a result of this, it's your choice. I don't understand the association of brightly coloured hair with immaturity, but IF it's there, cave to it only because you WANT to. Not because you feel that you have to.
Ooo, teaching? What grade range m'dear? I couldn't teach to save my life, I'd kill children if they pissed me off enough (plus the fact that I don't have that imposing teacher atmosphere of "shut up and sit down in my class" toally doesn't help). College I might could deal with, but that requires at least a masters.
Thanks for the kind words. *hug* I've been trying to convince mom of this whole "it's my hair, my choice" thing but she does what a mother does best (nagging or worrying, take your pick ^^). My problem is I'm far too bull-headed to want to cave into any stupid rule that's set in society just so people can fall into a norm they don't even want/agree with. I'd like to be the one (with the 'strange' hair) to go out there and try for GET the jobs other people are going for who have wanted to bow to that norm. It's nothing against them, it's just that I feel I shouldn't be pressured to make a choice I don't want simply because society says I should. I find it offensive that I will be judged and sentenced far long before I can
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True, true. And I'm sure my mom is, for whatever reason, embarrassed by the fact that she's somehow reflected in my choice to dye my hair this and that. She works in the school system you see so I'm sure there's a lot of "You let your daughter do that?", "I'd never let my child out of the house like that", etc. It's a sort of weird double-edged sword; on one hand she's proud of my individuality and on the other she wishes I'd tone it down and be 'normal' (or have 'normal' tendencies). I understand why sometimes, but it doesn't make it any easier
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I think your Mom is trying to protect you. I think hair color flexibility depends on your line of work. In pharmacy, that would be considered unprofessional. In art or fashion, I think it's OK. SO it's all about your environment.
Oh, I don't doubt that she's trying to protect me. And I wouldn't have such a problem with it if this wasn't a continual thing that we argue about, but it is and it never seems to progress past this point of "Why do you like it?" and "Why can't you understand?".
My thing is, I know that currently there are places that won't even look your way if you walk in with anything outside of the norm, but I just don't understand why? How does hair color have anything to do with a person's maturity level? (why am I asking this when I staff a convention of kids who do similar enough things? XD) I just don't think I quite get why society has set the standard it has sometimes.
So ultimately now, it really does boil down to environment :/ But basically if I wanted to go get a job at a graphic design firm, they would probably frown upon crazy hair colors too (even though it would be in an artistic part of the job spectrum). Feh.
*hugs on the Valerie* Thanks for the response dear ^^ I still dunno what I'm gonna do but I'm definately mulling it over. I keep trying to tell Mom that it's not as bad as it used to be but she just doesn't seem to get it. And in her defense, I'm sure the world isn't the ideal place I would like it to be in terms of acceptance but this is just one thing that I'm just totally confused about. :/ Miss you too. I must visit and we must plan stuffs.*hugs* I'll try to keep you posted *sifts through phone* I think I have your number anyhows. x_x
Yeah, Mom tends to do that. She also manages to continually forget that doors have automatic locks when going through 'bad' parts of Atlanta *rolls eyes* I love my mom but I worry about her view of the world sometimes. I chalk it up to her doing the 'mom' thing
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....of course, I probably wouldn't hire anyone with a mullet lest it was David Bowie as he is the only man I have yet to see make a mullet look sexy. XD
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I dye my hair a lot too. I don't tend to go crazy colours -- the worst I did was crimson streaks on black -- but I DO colour my hair. A lot. Black, blonde, red, brown . . . I've done it all. My situation isn't quite the same as yours, but I've been lectured about my hair and my piercings by people. I'm training to be a teacher, and people tell me that all those piercings in my ears and my 'crazy' coloured hair is going to make me look bad to potential schools or other such employers.
You know what I think? Screw them.
In the end, it comes down to this: it's your hair. As a result of this, it's your choice. I don't understand the association of brightly coloured hair with immaturity, but IF it's there, cave to it only because you WANT to. Not because you feel that you have to.
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Thanks for the kind words. *hug* I've been trying to convince mom of this whole "it's my hair, my choice" thing but she does what a mother does best (nagging or worrying, take your pick ^^). My problem is I'm far too bull-headed to want to cave into any stupid rule that's set in society just so people can fall into a norm they don't even want/agree with. I'd like to be the one (with the 'strange' hair) to go out there and try for GET the jobs other people are going for who have wanted to bow to that norm. It's nothing against them, it's just that I feel I shouldn't be pressured to make a choice I don't want simply because society says I should. I find it offensive that I will be judged and sentenced far long before I can ( ... )
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I think hair color flexibility depends on your line of work.
In pharmacy, that would be considered unprofessional.
In art or fashion, I think it's OK.
SO it's all about your environment.
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My thing is, I know that currently there are places that won't even look your way if you walk in with anything outside of the norm, but I just don't understand why? How does hair color have anything to do with a person's maturity level? (why am I asking this when I staff a convention of kids who do similar enough things? XD) I just don't think I quite get why society has set the standard it has sometimes.
So ultimately now, it really does boil down to environment :/ But basically if I wanted to go get a job at a graphic design firm, they would probably frown upon crazy hair colors too (even though it would be in an artistic part of the job spectrum). Feh.
*luffs on you* How I lurve the Dr. Laura!^_^
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Miss you too. I must visit and we must plan stuffs.*hugs* I'll try to keep you posted *sifts through phone* I think I have your number anyhows. x_x
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Yeah :/ She has this tendency to do many many MANY 'backhanded compliments' with both me and Jenn. Ugh. x_x
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