this is something i have realized as well over the last few years. but i have also come to realize that in any other situation besides college life, we probably would never get to know people well enough to lose respect for them. im realizing now that maybe people aren't meant to be so close... aren't meant to know so much about so many people. i mean obviously that's different for romantic relationships, and there are always a few friends that you do know that well. but i know for me that there are at least 30 people that i know TOO well. i'm at this point where i kind of like the fact that i don't have the opportunity to get that close with people any more. it may sound kind of lame, but to have the illusion of respect for someone because you don't know their weaknesses is now reassuring to me
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yeah, i love that aspect of this new trend toward individual technology [i think of ipods and myspace accounts as part of the same trend], but it also worries me.
i worry because i feel like in 10 years, it will be possible for people to keep entirely to themselves. it's like that show, desperate housewives. from the streets, it looks like any other suburban area with nothin goin on. but behind closed doors, they do HELLA shit. and if that black chick can keep her son imprisoned in her house, people can keep themselves imprisoned in their house. i worry that the combination of
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i understand your worries, but i dont really have them anymore. some people have, are and always will be hermits, regardless of technology. even if a dude's gotta go to the store to get his food and the gas station to fill up on petrol he can still be a hermit. and if people are lame enough to want to keep to themselves just because the newest technology allows them to, well FUCK YEAH! less mean/hermity people out and about would probably make me a lot bit happier inside
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every so often i think to myself, wow, other than the occasional call from doug or my parents, i can go weeks, even months, without receiving a single phone call (let alone email or whatnot) from a friend. and, sadly enough, this is no real improvement from college. so, that makes me feel like if you end up in your mother's position in the end, count your blessings. because that's 3 more than i've got. (not that it's a competition or anything.) i've learned that it's best just not to think about it, or else i end up feeling unbearably lonely (which is of course no offense to doug), even though i've been thinking about it a lot lately (which makes your post all the more timely).
ill never understand how me you and christyal are hella good friends til the end, but sometimes i think about it and i dont feel like i really KNOW you both all that well (but thats what you guys have each other for, duh), then i realize that its cause we're too busy being friends and having a good time and making each other feel great to sit around and dwell on bullshit together (although we have our homoments
this may start shit but i don't give a f.........funkybluesAugust 3 2006, 01:42:26 UTC
"you're not supposed to talk shit about your friends. you're not supposed to want to talk shit about your friends. you're not supposed to have a reason to talk shit about your friends. and that's why adults don't talk shit like students do--because they're not investing themselves in a bunch of meaningless friendships with people who have nothing more than a couple classes in common with them. they don't want to bother, because it is a waste of fucking time
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you are so absolutely right, yvette. we do talk entirely too much shit about each other. and that's exactly what i'm talking about with this post. that's also why, earlier this year, when our group basically fell apart, i didn't think it was the end of the world. sooner or later, someone was going to have to tell us that this ain't 90210, and people don't actually do that. you're not supposed to pick up and transplant your whole group of friends when you go somewhere new, you're supposed to meet new people. and that doesn't mean you can't still have those other friends, it just means that transplanting basically a whole group of friends, like we did, is not the standard way things are done
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Re: this may start shit but i don't give a f.........gleamingkeyAugust 7 2006, 16:29:25 UTC
this is my fucking life, and i want to live it for myself. i'm sick of trying to lead my life so that it'll please somebody else. i'm done with friendships that only exist to fill both parties' basic need for human interaction. i'm sick of having the word "friend" mean nothing more than "person who i met once
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i liked this post. i agree with a lot of it. especially because i've been feeling guilty about being a hermit lately. and not making any effort to stay in touch with people. but then i realize that if i wanted to talk to people....i probably would. not that the people i know are generally lame and immature (as in your case), i'm just not in the same place i used to be i guess? anyways. i hope that in our case we do remain friends because i feel like we do have stuff in common and a good understanding of each other and i respect you for you who are and what you believe and i no longer feel the need to argue with you about shit ever and yeah i just like you. and i do expect to be at the wedding (whenever it may be). and i plan on making at least one trip down to santa cruz to visit this next year. and yeah. i'm glad to hear you are enjoying your summer working because i'm feeling the same way. anyways. that was a rambling comment so i'll go now. heart.
i'm glad you brought that up, booger....because that's also a problem. we should be able to grow away from people. life takes people in a million different directions. if you're not in the same place as someone with whom you USED to be in the same place, then maybe it's time to realize how much you've changed, etc
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ill never understand how me you and christyal are hella good friends til the end, but sometimes i think about it and i dont feel like i really KNOW you both all that well (but thats what you guys have each other for, duh), then i realize that its cause we're too busy being friends and having a good time and making each other feel great to sit around and dwell on bullshit together (although we have our homoments
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