Fundamental Characteristics

[godlypunk]

I've been thinking and I've come to a solid conclusion about one thing in general about people.

Walking the avenue of life there seems to be one great divide between me and the rest of the world. It started back in elementary school. I noticed that alot of kids took pleasure in hurting other children. It could take shape with boys picking on other

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[odyssey_spirit]

Wow, very chill post. =) I am glad you were rarely subjected to peer mistreatment.

"I was a shy boy and would never dream of picking on or hurting anyone else."

Really? I've definitely thought of hurting others -- because I had been hurt. It's OK to spontaneously feel the desire to harm; it's just a reaction to the environments, a reaction arising from our genetics, survival needs, and ego structures. It's just not OK to act on it or reinforce the thought in a harmful way. From my inner experience, the desire to hurt others is not actually for pleasure (although sociopaths would be different) but seeking an attempt at release of painMy experience was having one bully each at two different elementary schools. It took me until early high school to fully feel and let go of that rage, thanks largely to piano, journaling, and a RL friend (Fendrana). Until then I would have recurring fantasies of destroying my wrong-doers or otherwise subduing and hurting them, usually in very magical, fantastical ways

[godlypunk]

I'm aware of socialogical reasons.... It's when a person ENJOYS it that bothers me. I believe it points to a fundamental issue... Could be parents etc. etc. But the fact that a person CHOSE to act out in that way says a lot to me. Somewhere the victim MADE the choice as to how to handle it.

THAT is why not all children abused by their parents decide to take action against someone else. A decision is made somewhere.

[odyssey_spirit]

Gotcha.

"It's when a person ENJOYS it that bothers me. "

I'd imagine that it's a shallow and fleeting pleasure, rather than true joy...