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googoogirl77

Random thoughts on love and marriage

Nov 06, 2007 00:18

So, Nick and I have been talking seriously about getting a place together/getting engaged/getting married. And it's brought up a lot of feelings and thoughts in me. We plan on moving in together as soon as possibly (likely in Sept when I start rotations) and we've been looking at rings for an engagement that would hopefully happen before or soon ( Read more... )

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sratava07 November 7 2007, 04:58:50 UTC

I think the general response is curious and/or negative just because you seem to have replaced all the passion of the marriage with logical planning and "being smart" about your future. Plus, I imagine they've never encountered a situation where two people were planning on getting married as they planned the rest of their life. One usually follows the other by a couple years, in most peoples' experience. At least mine. I hear a lot of talk at Wesleyan now about what different couples are going to do after graduating. It's sad because I think at this stage in your life, you should make moves that will benefit -you- most and then see where the relationships come in. That way, you've secured yourself a career and whatever else and now you're (relatively) free to focus on the important things, like marriage and having children ( ... )

googoogirl77 November 7 2007, 18:27:51 UTC

I just know a lot of couples who have been dating 6, 8, 10 years and the girl has no idea where the relationship is going. And it's not people that are 17 or 18, I'm talking people who are 25 or 26 and WISH they had a plan with the person they love for the future ( ... )

daisymae3 November 11 2007, 17:57:24 UTC

I think you are very logical and there is nothing wrong in planning ahead. I know how you feel, having a "secure" career, having a job anywhere, and it makes things sometimes easier and sometimes harder. Like you have flexibility but you want concreteness too. I totally agree with what you're doing, you're right, you do need time to plan for things, like what you'll be doing next year when you start rotations, things can't just always happen spontaneously. Just my thoughts :-) hope things are going swimmingly for you!

oneofakindcreep November 11 2007, 20:06:49 UTC

For what it's worth, I think you are approaching marriage the right way.

Whenever I'm at the point you are (in all of a decade or so probably), I want to make sure that the lady in my life is both on board and playing an active role in the decision making process.

I hope this goes well for you and Nick!