It is. If you cannot ask the person about their feelings for you directly, or find some intermediary to find out for you, and prepare yourself to accept their honest answer, whatever it may be. Then, at least you know where you stand, but you'll have to listen carefully to your heart as to what your next step will be.
And perhaps the only way you can honor both their feelings and your own is to withdraw, but I know a bloke who was in love with someone for years, and she despised him, but there was just no one else for him but her. He kept at her, doing everything he could think of to impress her untl she couldn't help but see his dedication. Fortunately by that point he'd also figured out how to stop doing all the things that obviously annoyed her, and start doing things that she would actually find admirable, and they were married in the end, so well done him.
Oh, certainly. He had a good five, five and a half years of her ative loathing, and I still couldn't tell you what it was that gave her pause, but you should see them now.
In fact, you can, as they're both here, but alas this is a meme and thus I have no actual in-character reason to introduce you.
At the end of it all, all of the pain, emotional and physical, that he suffered in her name was worth it, because she is brilliant.
"Worth it" is maybe not the most useful way of looking at it. He just knew she was the one, so it would never have made him happy pursuing anyone else. He knew she made him feel amazing, and so he dedicated himself to becoming the best person he could, so that he'd be worthy of her. I of course thought he was great just as he was, but we all of us had some growing up to do.
Think about how this person makes you feel, and if that's a feeling that you can't ignore or set aside, well. Then don't, because it isn't worth it to settle for less.
I'd certainly prefer not to settle for less, but you humans seem to carry so much stigma for relationships between persons of the same gender! It can be difficult to tell how one of you will react to a flushed solicitation along those lines.
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And perhaps the only way you can honor both their feelings and your own is to withdraw, but I know a bloke who was in love with someone for years, and she despised him, but there was just no one else for him but her. He kept at her, doing everything he could think of to impress her untl she couldn't help but see his dedication. Fortunately by that point he'd also figured out how to stop doing all the things that obviously annoyed her, and start doing things that she would actually find admirable, and they were married in the end, so well done him.
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In fact, you can, as they're both here, but alas this is a meme and thus I have no actual in-character reason to introduce you.
At the end of it all, all of the pain, emotional and physical, that he suffered in her name was worth it, because she is brilliant.
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But would it have been worth it if she had ended up with another instead? If he had never achieved results from his pining?
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Think about how this person makes you feel, and if that's a feeling that you can't ignore or set aside, well. Then don't, because it isn't worth it to settle for less.
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