I'm not sure if the societal norm thing actually affects me much - I've never really been bothered about all that, although I guess I do feel as though I should have a career by now - one that actually pays. I am in the process of divorcing my husband. Due largely to my experience with him, I feel alive for the first time in ages now that this is over. I catch myself doing a little dance of freedom in the living room. I don't want to give that up. Maybe what I want is a compromise of a sort - I don't really know yet. I would love to date - if I could find anyone worth dating around here and ever had any access to, and funds for, a babysitter. The town I live in has a gene pool so shallow there are NO DIVING warnings painted around the edge, and it really shows. I have no interest in a man who thinks the meaning of life is getting drunk on poor quality beer at the weekends (I'm no fan of either getting drunk or bad beer.) I have no interest in a man who smokes. I'm seriously thinking I need to a) move, and b) consider women if I want
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I agree with joansies, other than the dating thing. But that's just my style--when I was dating, I was dating to look for a long-term relationship. A first date (or a second date, or a third date) wasn't a commitment, but I was looking for a long-term mate, and I dated with that in mind.
That said, not everyone views (or defines!) dating the same way. As long as both people in the equation have the same expectations, that's all that really matters (in my opinion).
But it sounds to me like you need some time to heal, remember who you are and what makes you wonderful, focus on yourself and Wee Boy. Go out with friends! Do stuff! Be social! Knit! Challenge yourself with a new pattern; learn to do something you've never done before. Luxuriate in having your own space. Enjoy your Celebrity Crush
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Be social. Excellent advice. You know what? I think that's part of the problem - I don't actually have friends in thi8s city except for my awesome future sister-in-law and my mom, and maybe I'm not supposed to count my mom
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Wait, so we can't edit our comments any more? Since when?! Anyway, I forgot I also wanted to ask you if you ever knit lace, and if so, what size stitch markers you tend to favour.
A truly worth celebrity crush, if I do say so myself, but I DO want to point out, that not everyone will scream at you if they don't like what's happening with shared space. Dis-satisfaction can be communicated other ways. Or. You have separate rooms. I DESPERATELY wish we had the space in our house to do that.
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I am in the process of divorcing my husband. Due largely to my experience with him, I feel alive for the first time in ages now that this is over. I catch myself doing a little dance of freedom in the living room. I don't want to give that up. Maybe what I want is a compromise of a sort - I don't really know yet.
I would love to date - if I could find anyone worth dating around here and ever had any access to, and funds for, a babysitter. The town I live in has a gene pool so shallow there are NO DIVING warnings painted around the edge, and it really shows. I have no interest in a man who thinks the meaning of life is getting drunk on poor quality beer at the weekends (I'm no fan of either getting drunk or bad beer.) I have no interest in a man who smokes. I'm seriously thinking I need to a) move, and b) consider women if I want ( ... )
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That said, not everyone views (or defines!) dating the same way. As long as both people in the equation have the same expectations, that's all that really matters (in my opinion).
But it sounds to me like you need some time to heal, remember who you are and what makes you wonderful, focus on yourself and Wee Boy. Go out with friends! Do stuff! Be social! Knit! Challenge yourself with a new pattern; learn to do something you've never done before. Luxuriate in having your own space. Enjoy your Celebrity Crush ( ... )
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