Internet Dating, unreasonable expectations and the death of courtesy

[greatgenghost]

As everyone who has spent 2 minutes reading my stuff knows, I am often amused and disgusted at human behavior. Well... I think this time I have exceeded any expectations I might have had as to the the depths in which people can wallow. Being single and 41 makes meeting people exceptionally difficult and having a job that has me on-call seven days a

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[ravendragonstar]

We should have more people in the world like you. It is so rare these days to find some as honost and sincere as you. But yes, I do agree with you about hte way people are today. Similar to you, I was raised to be honost and not to judge people. However, we all judge, it's human nature. Or at least as a society we have made it human nature. Before I met Quinn (who is a rare gem in the fact he looks past the outside and towards the inside...and puts up with my bullshit), I was stuck dating, seeing, fucking (whatever you want to call it) losers. I had super high expectations of guys. I would meet a drop dead handsome guy and "hook up with" only to be used. I was naive then and have out grown that a bit. I'm not the prettiest thing out there and I have a bit of extra weight. I know I will never date a rich guy, a super good looking guy, and porbably not a guy who is extremely successful. That doesn't mean I can't be happy with someone who doesn't meet that criteria. But I'm not every body in the world and most people will

Internet Dating

[legalhistorian]

As you know, I've had mixed success with this. I was fortunate, or un-, depending on one's perspective, in having a woman who looked great on paper contact me, doubtless due to my flawless profile and my coverboy quality photo. That, alas, didn't work out, as I was Mr. Perfect in every way but one, namely not making $150,000 per year. Mind you, my government employment was not a secret, but it became an issue after we had been dating for over 2 months. Since then I've written to a couple of women whose profiles and photos caught me interest. One, who is not local at the moment, is at a friend level, could be more. The other isn't quite sure what she wants in her life, and is currently, at least in my mind, shunted off to friend status rather than girlfriend. She makes the effort, or so she told me, to respond with a short note to anyone who takes the trouble to write. On those occasions when I receive an unsolicited email, I respond, always politely. If the real reason that I'm not interested is perhaps a tad shallow, which